The Truth About Closure: Why We Want It, How to Get It & When to Walk Away
“Know who you’re dealing with before you seek closure. Can you be okay with every possible reaction? If not, don’t set yourself up for more harm.”
— Dr. Gary McClain
“If I could just get closure…” How many times have you said those words after betrayal, breakup, or loss? In this powerful episode of FLAUNT!, Lora Cheadle sits down with Dr. Gary McClain—psychotherapist, relationship coach, and author of The Power of Closure: Why We W...
The Truth About Closure: Why We Want It, How to Get It & When to Walk Away
“Know who you’re dealing with before you seek closure. Can you be okay with every possible reaction? If not, don’t set yourself up for more harm.”
— Dr. Gary McClain
“If I could just get closure…” How many times have you said those words after betrayal, breakup, or loss? In this powerful episode of FLAUNT!, Lora Cheadle sits down with Dr. Gary McClain—psychotherapist, relationship coach, and author of The Power of Closure: Why We Want It, How to Get It, and When to Walk Away. Together, they unravel the myths about closure, why we crave it, and the surprising ways it can either heal or harm us. From ghosting to infidelity, narcissistic partners to unspoken endings, you’ll learn how to stop chasing the fairytale ending and start creating compassionate closure—whether or not the other person is willing to participate.
This is the episode that will change the way you think about “the end” forever.
Top 3 Takeaways
- Closure isn’t always what you think it is. Sometimes it’s not about a neat ending—it’s about validating yourself, choosing compassion, and walking away whole.
- Intentions matter. Before seeking closure, ask yourself: Do I want understanding, forgiveness, to be “right,” or to hurt them back? Your intention determines your outcome.
- You don’t always need them to heal. Even if the betrayer refuses contact (or is unavailable), you can find closure by processing your grief, reconnecting with yourself, and embracing life again.
“Closure doesn’t always come from them—it often comes from choosing yourself.” – Lora Cheadle
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About Lora:
Lora Cheadle, JD, CHt is a betrayal recovery coach, attorney, TEDx speaker, and author of FLAUNT! and It’s Not Burnout, It’s Betrayal.
After uncovering her husband’s 15-year affair, she turned her own pain into purpose—helping high-achieving women reclaim their identity, power, and joy.
A trauma-aware coach, somatic therapist, and former attorney, Lora blends legal insight with emotional and spiritual healing for full-spectrum recovery.
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