84. Q&A: Dating to Have a Meaningful Intimate Relationship as a Spiritual Practitioner

“After you are clear on what your terms of engagement are, which are based on your values, your communication needs to reflect those terms of engagement in a consistent way from the very beginning,” explains host Alejandra. In order to have meaningful intimate relationships, it is important to be authentic and intentional in the language you use with your partner or potential partners. Today, Alejandra shares her tips for dating as a spiritual practitioner. 

 

You can have a meaningful and intimate relationship with a partner even if they are not on the same transformational path as you. What matters most is clear communication of your terms of engagement and staying true to those values throughout your relationship. If certain practices are important to your spiritual path such as daily yoga or meditation, then your partner needs to be accepting and supportive of those practices. When you date, be sure to be authentic and share your passion for your spiritual path so that you can know from the beginning whether your potential partner’s values align with your own. 

 

In order to have a deep, meaningful intimate relationship, you must communicate more effectively with your dates from the very beginning. Share what is most important to you, and do not waver on your values when deciding on a partner. While your partner does not necessarily have to be on a spiritual path themselves, it is vital that they at least be supportive and understanding of your path. 

 

Quotes

• “In order to have a meaningful and deep relationship as a spiritual practitioner, you don't necessarily have to have a partner who's also on the spiritual path.” (4:06-4:17 | Alejandra)

• “The language you're using with people you are dating will communicate to them the kind of level of depth that you would like to have with them.” (6:56-7:04 | Alejandra)

• “When you describe yourself, when you talk about yourself, when you share about how you spend your time, if you are not sharing that you are on a path of transformation, if you don't mention how meaningful the practices of yoga and meditation are for you, then you are not communicating authentically. And if that is so then it would be important to do some inquiry and find out what kind of inner dialogue is going on for you that's leading you to omit something that is so important to you.” (12:15-12:51 | Alejandra) 

• “Your terms of engagement are based on your core values.” (13:53-13:49 | Alejandra)

• “After you are clear on what your terms of engagement are, which are based on your values, your communication needs to reflect those terms of engagement in a consistent way from the very beginning.” (14:28-14:43 | Alejandra)

• “The level of depth and meaning in your intimate relationship depends on the quality of your communication.” (16:14-16:21 | Alejandra) 

 

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