Episode #13: When a Child Doesn’t Feel Seen: The Roots of the ”Perfectionist” and the ”Problem Child”

Have you ever wondered why some adults struggle with perfectionism, overachieving, or overgiving? The answer often lies in childhood experiences. When a child doesn't feel seen or validated, their ego gets creative to meet this fundamental need. This can lead to patterns of behavior that persist into adulthood, impacting their emotional well-being and relationships.

In this video, we delve into the psychological roots of these behaviors, exploring:

The Role of the Ego: How a child's sense of self adapts when their emotional needs aren't met.

Perfectionism: Why the drive to be perfect can be a response to feeling invisible.

Overachieving: How striving for success and recognition becomes a way to gain the validation they missed as a child. Overgiving: The tendency to put others' needs before their own, hoping to earn love and acceptance.

Problem Child: How Ego can take the need to feel seen to extremes.

 

Understanding these patterns is the first step towards healing and developing healthier ways of relating to your kids, oneself, and others.

 

Please let me know in the comments if something in the episode resonates with you and your Inner Child! Thanks for listening and know that I'm sending you and your Inner Child so much love and healing!!

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