Ep - 48 R-E-S-P-E-C-T

In this episode of the Operation: Thriving Marriage Podcast, we dive deep into the essential element of any thriving relationship - mutual respect. We'll start by asking a fundamental question: Who do you respect, and why? Join us as we explore how respect plays a pivotal role in maintaining strong and healthy connections.

When we talk to couples in crisis, a recurring theme emerges - the erosion of mutual respect. Love may still linger, but the loss of respect can have devastating consequences. We acknowledge the stereotypes that suggest women need love while men need respect, but in reality, both genders crave both. Respect is the foundation on which love can flourish.

Failure to communicate respect conveys a lack of value and equality in a relationship. Each spouse brings unique qualities and roles to a marriage, but they are equal partners. When respect dwindles, resentment takes root, leading to a gradual distancing between partners and strife in all aspects of the marriage.

To rebuild and maintain mutual respect, we must first recognize that our spouse deserves our respect as a person of infinite worth. They've committed to us and our marriage to represent something greater together. Beyond this, we must respect our spouse for who they are, not just what they do, as valuing them solely for their actions objectifies and dehumanizes them.

Here are some practical ways to express respect to your spouse:

1. Validation: Communicate what you value about them, both in their actions and as individuals.
2. Curiosity: Ask open-ended questions about their thoughts, feelings, hopes, and dreams.
3. Play to Strengths: Recognize that a 50/50 approach doesn't always make sense; let your spouse excel in their areas of strength.
4. Communication: Set aside time to talk and connect regularly.

In the grand scheme of marriage, mutual respect is the cornerstone upon which everything else stands. When respect withers, so does the partnership. Make it a priority to respect your spouse for who they are, and learn how to convey that respect effectively. By doing so, you can breathe new life into your marriage and watch it thrive. Join us next time on [Podcast Name] as we continue to explore essential aspects of relationships.