If you keep working for the same type of people with the same problems you are the root cause. This may be tough to hear but it is easy for you to find yourself in a pattern.
We all have Internal blind spots that hold us back. These blind spots may not be seen until someone shows you what actions you keep taking. Sometimes these conversations hurt feelings because they are so personal. We pick the wrong job and don’t think through what we are looking for. The weaknesses we have may get us to now take a position we should be...
If you keep working for the same type of people with the same problems you are the root cause. This may be tough to hear but it is easy for you to find yourself in a pattern.
We all have Internal blind spots that hold us back. These blind spots may not be seen until someone shows you what actions you keep taking. Sometimes these conversations hurt feelings because they are so personal. We pick the wrong job and don’t think through what we are looking for. The weaknesses we have may get us to now take a position we should because we don’t think we are worthy.
The type of people we look to associate with can be part of this problem that you and I face.
We take the words of people who don’t matter and look to them as valid critics. We don’t discuss our shortcomings with people we trust. There is a catch 22 where we take the advice from people we don't really care for but we don't talk to people we trust.
This causes another problem and it is we don’t ask for help when we need it. Help is not requested out of fear of looking dumb, silly or, even not knowing what to say.
When you examine what is going on we work for the wrong people. Some weak or manipulative people will block you out of fear. There are people who will hold you back so they stay on top or look good. Most weak people do not allow others to grow into a role in fact they hold them back.
There are also problems with abusive relationships. We put up with abusive relationships and take the problems handed out. If you have been in an abusive relationship you also may be predisposed to be taken advantage of. You will find that because of previous interactions you fall into these conversations until it is pointed out.
The internal self-talk problems
When you add in the conversations you have internally, your problems are compounded.
- I can't do this
- I am not good enough
- Nobody will believe I can do this
- I will fail
- Nobody in my family has ever done this
These internal dialogue issues play into you working for the wrong people or the wrong company. You do have the power to resist and overcome the internal problems created.
Here is how to fix all of this:
The internal beliefs and conversations can be changed. You can believe in yourself and know you are worthy of a top-notch job.
When you take the time to make a list of what you want and even how you can push yourself this starts a cycle for you.
You will also want to look for the common threads of problems you create (What type of person do you have to keep dealing with).
What demons are locked in your closet – Who told you that you are not good enough, you are not worthy, bullied you?
Think about this:
When you look at what and who holds you back it is mostly people who are insignificant to you and your life.
Ask yourself and think about this:
Who is the person you are trying to live up that that really doesn’t matter in your life? – You may have someone you dislike that is holding you back. Whatever they would say about you really has no bearing on your abilities… you just look to them and they really shouldn’t sway you.
You can:
- Find better friends or people who will encourage you to do the right thing
- Get therapy or help.
- Get a therapist and talk through your problems and be vulnerable and have the conversation
