Body hair, men’s preferences and healthy love

Is it okay for men to have preferences about our bodies?

Why do we leap to defend a man's "preference" about what our bodies should look like? If you want to build a long-term, healthy, intimate relationship, shouldn't he accept you as you are?

In this episode we ask:

- Are they really "preferences" or "expectations" and why do we think we have to meet them?

- If we adjust our goals, looks and hair (down there!) because he "prefers it" does that create a healthy love dynamic?

- Are we losing ourselves because we want to be loved, rather than expecting to be loved as we choose to be?

- If someone expects you to change how you are - is that healthy love or something else?

- Have unrealistic portrayals of women on social media and in *orn created bizarre ideas for men about what women should look like?

Projecting our expectations onto someone else doesn't help us create solid, loving or grounded connections. Instead, it creates relationships that are shallow, and unlikely to be sustainable or fulfilling in the long-term.

What kind of relationship do you desire?

Medusa's Mic is produced by author and advocate for healthy love, Lucretia Ackfield.

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