TME 02 | Truth Bombs I Wish I Knew in My 20s Part 1

Title: 20 Brutal Truth Bombs I Wish I Knew in My 20s | Part 1

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Bullet Point Highlights:

• “Follow Your Passion” is Bad Advice: The speaker argues that pursuing passion without developing relevant skills leads to wasted time and frustration.
• No One is Watching: The fundamentally liberating realization that most people are too engulfed in their own lives to scrutinize your choices.
• Growth Comes from Discomfort: Becoming comfortable with discomfort is essential for personal development.
• Work-Life Balance is a Myth: Prioritizing your energy according to the season of your life is more crucial than trying to achieve an impossible balance.
• Failure is Feedback: Instead of being paralyzed by the fear of failure, view it as an opportunity to learn and grow.
• Not Every Opportunity is Worth Chasing: Recognizing distractions that do not align with long-term goals is vital for sustained progress.
• Take Risks While You’re Young: The speaker advocates for seizing opportunities and taking calculated risks early in life when responsibilities are fewer.

Transcript:

(Seth Bradley)
you've been fed lies your entire life they told you to follow your passion wait for the right time and keep everyone around you happy does that sound familiar well I'm here to tell you that's all Bs those ideas aren't just wrong they're keeping you broke stuck and miserable at the time of this recording I'm 41 years old even though I was moving forward educationally getting my MBA and law degree during my 20s I was also wasting my time and health Away by partying chasing women and caring what other people thought about me today

 

I'm dropping 20 truth bombs that no one else wants to say out loud this isn't your typical motivational stuff it's raw it's real and it's going to make you uncomfortable and that's the point if you want a life worth living it's time to wake up and stop playing by the rules that were designed to hold you down if you want to be average turn this off now if you want to be exceptional buckle up by the time this video ends you'll have no excuse to keep living small this is the advice I wish someone had told me

 

when I was in my 20s even if I were willing to listen so pay attention because if you're serious about winning these 20 truths will change everything let's go all right let's start out with a banger finding your passion is trash advice Follow Your Passion has to be the dumbest piece of advice out there you know who says that broke ass dreamers who've never actually accomplished anything let me tell you why chasing your passion is is a one-way ticket to wasting time and frustration you don't need passion you need skills a plan and

 

the ability to solve problems people will actually pay for you're not born with some magical purpose you're supposed to uncover that's Disney what works in real life is developing a skill set becoming so good they can't ignore you and then using that leverage to build something meaningful and guess what when you get really good at something and you get paid a lot of money to do it suddenly you've got a passion for it passion follows success not the other way around you know I skipped around from exercise science to

 

medical school to business school to law school asking myself the whole time what's my passion never could find it and I'll explain when I started in law school I wasn't passionate about Securities or real estate law and even still I hated working at a big stuffy law firm with a million bosses with every 6 minutes accounted for sounds miserable and it was but I did see an opportunity I learned the game I mastered my craft and I built my reputation now I get to call my own shots I'm building businesses with a

 

basis of Highly valuable knowledge and skill sets that people will pay a ton of money for more specifically legally raising capital for Real Estate well now it's my passion if I just Chase my passion I'd probably still be broke chasing my quote unquote dreams that wouldn't pay me passion doesn't create success skills do build something meaningful valuable and get paid properly to do it and I promise you that you'll find your passion and the freedom that it gives you stop waiting for inspiration and start creating

 

opportunities number two no one gives a what you're doing here's the cold hard truth no one is watching you as closely as you think nobody cares what you're doing it's called the spotlight effect look it up and really it's a bias that you believe that people are paying more attention to you than they really are most of us waste so much time worrying about what other people think of us but let me break it to you people are way too busy worrying about their own lives to care about yours that business you're

 

nervous about launching that big risk you're afraid to take because you might look stupid too nervous to talk to that girl at the bar look nobody's thinking about it as much as you are so stop holding yourself back it's all you if you fail no one will notice or even if they do they'll soon forget look I used to worry about what other people would think I used to think about what would they react if I left big law and shifted to real estate or started my own business but the second I did it I realized that nobody gave it they were

 

too focused on their own lives they've got things to do they don't care what I'm doing they don't care what you're doing so free yourself from the illusion that the world is watching nobody cares so do what you want to do live your best life get out there take some chances take some risks no regrets baby number three get comfortable with people not liking you I know it's a hard pill to swallow for some of us more than others but not every every one is going to like you and you've got to get comfortable

 

with that being okay in fact it's a good thing trying to please everyone is the fastest way to lose yourself some people aren't going to Vibe with you no matter what you do your opinions will piss them off your success will make them jealous and your authenticity will make them uncomfortable but don't worry about it get comfortable with it guess what that's their problem it's not yours you were not put on this planet to make every one happy you were put here to live your life and do your thing the

 

right people will support you and the wrong ones will fall off and you're going to be a better person for it and you're going to be better off because of it when I started sharing my journey online I got a lot of criticism I was very uncomfortable doing it people were saying you know what are you doing why are you doing a podcast why are you leaving law are you crazy but the more I stayed true to myself and the more I attracted people who understood my vision the rest honestly totally irrelevant it's a little bit of

 

short-term pain for some long-term gain so be you no matter what the people who matter will stick around and the ones who don't let them go four your comfort zone is slowly killing you the most dangerous place to be isn't Rock Bottom it's your comfort zone Comfort zones feel safe but they're just sand traps nothing grows here no progress no change no success the longer you stay comfortable the harder it becomes to break out it's easy to be average it's easy to accept your weaknesses and it's easy to collect a paycheck every 2 weeks

 

it's hard to be exceptional it's hard to turn your weaknesses into strengths and it's hard to take big risks but growth comes from discomfort pushing yourself taking risks facing challenges and if you're not at least a little scared or uncomfortable you're not growing and you're not doing it right and if you're not growing you're dying I'll tell you about something that makes me extremely uncomfortable you know what I'm kind of doing it right now not long ago like many my biggest weakness was public

 

speaking or really just speaking generally it doesn't even need to be in front of a ton of people it can be in front of a camera it could be in front of a handful of people introducing myself I mean I would nearly have a panic attack just having to introduce myself to a room and I hated that about me but did I just accept it and did I avoid it honestly for a little bit I did and then I said look if you want to grow you've got to learn this skill and you've got to get better at it so I launched a podcast I accepted speaker

 

invitations and I took every opportunity possible to make myself uncomfortable and now I've turned it into a strength and was tough because when you get asked that question hey do you want to do this do you want to speak do you want to have this meeting my first inclination no but then I thought to myself yo let's get uncomfortable and I respond yes every single time until I got good at this Comfort zones kill dreams step out take the risk and watch yourself transform number five work life balance is a myth

 

we've been told a lie your whole life work life balance it does not exist and if it does man it's not for you I know it's not for me chasing it's only going to make you miserable life is not about balance it's about priorities some Seasons you're going to be grinding some Seasons you're going to be sacrificing sleep weekends relationships and build your dreams instead other Seasons you'll have time to celebrate and enjoy but there's no balance here if you want to be super successful your balance is

 

going to be way over here and then it's going to maybe swing back here later on and then way over here and then swing back staying right here this is that comfort zone that I talked about avoid it trying to balance everything equally every day it's a recipe for Burnout the anxiety that it creates just by trying to stay right center it's going to kill you the people who suceed Ed know when to go all in and when to take a step back balance isn't about splitting your time perfectly it's about putting your

 

energy where it matters the most at that Optimum time for example right now I'm in grow mode I'm completely unbalanced I'm scaling three startups to nine digigit companies while also running my old businesses running my Law Firm investing in real estate growing my brand balance is out the window right now the grind though is temporary and I've conditioned myself to love it I know at some point I don't know when that is it's going to swing back and I'm going to be able to enjoy myself and I am actually really good at taking a

 

vacation putting things on the side keeping things moving forward but also taking a break but balance isn't something you find it's something you create over time by being intentional with your priorities number six failure isn't fatal you know what pisses me off watching people treat failure like it's some kind of terminal disease it's not failure doesn't kill you your fear of it does so let's talk about why you need to stop being a little about failing here's the hard truth failure is inevitable and you need it you're going

 

to fail you have to have it to succeed you're probably going to fail a lot nobody who's actually successful ever got there without face planing first Michael Jordan you know got cut from his high school team maybe he was a freshman going out for uh Varsity whatever Steve Jobs fired from his own company failure is feedback remember that failure is feedback so instead of crying about it learn from it and keep moving I've had tons of epic failures I've dropped out of medical school I got fired from a

 

multiple sixf figure job on New Year's Eve I raised exactly 0 from investors for a real estate project at those times I felt like it's the end of the world but you know what failure was the best damn thing that ever happened to me it forced me to look in the mirror be humbled learn improve and then the next time with a chip on my shoulder so what's the lesson here failure isn't the end it's the beginning if you're too scared to fail too scared to to succeed stop playing it safe take the leap when

 

you fall you'll be fine get back up and let's go number seven not every opportunity is a good opportunity opportunities are like shiny objects they're distracting you and most of them look good at first glance but not every shiny object is worth chasing some will drain your time energy and your sanity faster than a toxic relationship the truth is good opportunities align with your goals and your long-term Vision the bad ones they're just expensive distractions in Disguise don't confuse movement and being busy with progress

 

the more successful and experienced you get the bigger the opportunities you're going to have to turn down 15 years ago I would have killed to have an opportunity to partner with someone anyone on any real estate deal today I turn them down daily I don't even look at anything that doesn't align with my long-term vision and my goals no matter how big the opportunity is if it's a distraction from my long-term strategy it's a no for me dog saying no to the wrong opportunity frees you up to say yes to the right one when it comes along

 

you've got to get comfortable with saying no that is an expensive lesson to learn your future saying no to the wrong opportunity frees you up to say yes to the right one when it comes along you've got to get comfortable with saying no that's a valuable skill the ability to say no your future self will thank you number eight don't wait for permission or approval if you're sitting around waiting for someone to say all right go ahead you can do it now playing the wrong game let's get real the only

 

person who needs to approve your dreams is you not your parents not your family not your friends not your significant other or you should have chose better waiting for someone else's permission is just another way of procrastinating and it's a one-way ticket to the Comfort Zone don't need a committee you don't need a cheerleader you don't need a green light what you need is the balls to start and you don't need anybody clapping for you when I started my first gym while working at a big Law Firm

 

everyone told me I was crazy what if it fails why are you doing this how will you have time but I didn't need their permission I didn't need their approval I didn't need their green light I just needed the confidence to bet on myself and guess what it worked so stop waiting for approval that's never coming stop listening to people who are less successful than you want to be take control make the lead and prove to yourself you can do it green light baby number nine you've heard this before but this is so true comparison is is the

 

thief of Joy scrolling through someone else's highlight reel is the fastest way to hate your own damn life let me tell you why comparison is a disease and how to cure it we've all done it we've looked at someone else's car or their house or their career or their girl and thought why not me or man they got really lucky what do they do it but here's the thing comparing yourself to others is a losers game because it's never a fair fight you're comparing their curated Picture Perfect moments to the raw unedited life that you live

 

every single day social media is fake even still their success does not equal your failure there's enough room for everybody to win it's abundance mindset I couldn't even imagine growing up in today's social media environment we did so much crazy growing up and I'm just so thankful that we didn't have all this because it might be on the internet somewhere fast forward though I'm guilty of all this as well looking at my peers seeing what they're doing seeing what success they're having but look I use it

 

for fuel I don't let it affect how I feel about myself and about my accomplishments and I learn from what others are doing better than me stop looking sideways focus on your own Journey your own progress and your own W's consistency and confidence that that's how you move forward number 10 take more and bigger risks when you're young if you're in your 20s and you're not swinging for the fences you're wasting the biggest Advantage you have in its time let me break it down when you're young you can afford to take

 

risks you don't have a mortgage you don't have kids you don't have the weight of responsibilities that come later frankly you don't have the weight of your conscience either you don't give a hopefully and that's a competitive Advantage whether it's start a business or investing in yourself or making a bold career move the worst case scenario isn't as bad as you think you recover faster than you expect and even if you fail you'll be 10 steps ahead of the person who didn't try when I bought my first rental property I was terrified

 

had no clue what I was doing what if I lost money what if it all went wrong what if it burned down but taking that risk paid off I got the experience I got a great property I still own that property but even if it hadn't the lessons I learned would have been worth it don't play it safe play with a little reckless abandon you've got a little bit of time now we'll talk about that later but you've got more time than most and you've got less to lose than most use that to your advantage all right that's 10 bombs raw and probably

 

made you a little uncomfortable but if you made it this far you're already winning because most people out there just can't stick with anything long enough to gain any value from it but that's not you and we're not done there are 10 more truth bombs in part two that hit even harder so make sure you're subscribed and share with someone who needs a wakeup call now go take some action and I'll see you in part two

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