Shelly and Cam do an abrupt right turn with expectations, from camping in the woods on Phish Tour with Shelly to the environment and demands of work. Wherever there are people there are expectations, and wherever there are expectations there are different interpretations of those expectations. Burnout is actually an indicator of mismanaged expectations. ADHD makes it really tough to distinguish the priority of competing demands, and we often falter when we sense conflicting expectations.
Shelly and Cam explore a few client examples of habitual responses (from last week) and what the clients did to have a different experience with expectations. Using a colorful metaphor from a previous episode of ‘too many tennis balls coming over the net’, Shelly’s client resources her new manager to take a look at all of the end-of-school-year incoming demands and to prioritize and make an action plan for a ‘successful return volley’. The common theme is noticing the expectation and your own response to it. Shifting expectations from an ‘immutable truth’ to actually what it is - a point of engagement for dialogue.
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For more of the Translating ADHD podcast:
Utilizing Supportive People with ADHD
Letting it Be Easy with ADHD
Finding the Right Path with the Big Agenda
Managing Distraction to Reach Completion
Managing Mental and Emotional Energy with ADHD
ADHD and Setting Boundaries
Managing Mental and Emotional Overload with ADHD
Shifting from "Snow Day" to Opportunity Mentality while Social Distancing with ADHD
Navigating COVID-19 Related Disruptions with ADHD
Identifying and Accessing Resources with ADHD
Shifting to a Strengths Based Perspective with ADHD
Tapping Into Strengths with ADHD
ADHD, Hyperfocus, and Flow State
Distinguishing ADHD and Time Management
Time, Transitions, and Hyperfocus (pt. 1)
ADHD and Experiencing Time
ADHD and Doing What Matters
ADHD and Sense of Self
ADHD and Negative Self Talk
Cause, Effect, and the Universal ADHD Question (pt. 2)
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