Shelly and Cam do an abrupt right turn with expectations, from camping in the woods on Phish Tour with Shelly to the environment and demands of work. Wherever there are people there are expectations, and wherever there are expectations there are different interpretations of those expectations. Burnout is actually an indicator of mismanaged expectations. ADHD makes it really tough to distinguish the priority of competing demands, and we often falter when we sense conflicting expectations.
Shelly and Cam explore a few client examples of habitual responses (from last week) and what the clients did to have a different experience with expectations. Using a colorful metaphor from a previous episode of ‘too many tennis balls coming over the net’, Shelly’s client resources her new manager to take a look at all of the end-of-school-year incoming demands and to prioritize and make an action plan for a ‘successful return volley’. The common theme is noticing the expectation and your own response to it. Shifting expectations from an ‘immutable truth’ to actually what it is - a point of engagement for dialogue.
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For more of the Translating ADHD podcast:
Being Misunderstood with ADHD: Childhood Origins
ADHD and the Understand, Own, Translate Model
Short Circuiting the ADHD Meaning Maker
Locating ADHD Behind the Limiting Story
ADHD and Emotional Autopilot
The In-between Place: Untethered with ADHD
ADHD PoC Voices: Influencer Rach Idowu Shares Her Own ADHD Story of Struggle, Resilience and Advocacy
ADHD and Experimenting with Detaching From Outcome
Getting Distance from the Adrenaline Response Cycle: Big Signals and Journey Thinking
ADHD and Getting Distance from the Adrenaline Response Cycle
In the Shadow of Impending Urgency: Procrastination and the Adrenaline Response Cycle
ADHD and Boundaries: Revisiting The Adrenaline Response Cycle
ADHD and Relationships: Boundaries and the Performative Judge
ADHD and Relationships: Identifying Our Inner Saboteurs
ADHD and Relationships: Identifying the Dysfunction past the Drama
ADHD and Relationships: Emotional Regulation and the Big Signal of Drama
ADHD and Purpose: Getting Insight into Your Who and Why
Self-Actualization ADHD Needs: Creative Expression
Esteem ADHD Needs: Self Compassion
Belongingness and Love ADHD Needs: Self Acceptance
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