Shelly and Cam do an abrupt right turn with expectations, from camping in the woods on Phish Tour with Shelly to the environment and demands of work. Wherever there are people there are expectations, and wherever there are expectations there are different interpretations of those expectations. Burnout is actually an indicator of mismanaged expectations. ADHD makes it really tough to distinguish the priority of competing demands, and we often falter when we sense conflicting expectations.
Shelly and Cam explore a few client examples of habitual responses (from last week) and what the clients did to have a different experience with expectations. Using a colorful metaphor from a previous episode of ‘too many tennis balls coming over the net’, Shelly’s client resources her new manager to take a look at all of the end-of-school-year incoming demands and to prioritize and make an action plan for a ‘successful return volley’. The common theme is noticing the expectation and your own response to it. Shifting expectations from an ‘immutable truth’ to actually what it is - a point of engagement for dialogue.
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For more of the Translating ADHD podcast:
Big Signal Emotions with ADHD: Rejection
Big Signal Emotions with ADHD: Shame
A Different Take on Emotional Dysregulation with ADHD
Big Signal Emotions with ADHD: Blame
Navigating the First Barrier of ADHD
ADHD PoC Voices: Romanza McAllister LCSW Shares her Own Story and Discusses Challenges Facing People of Color with ADHD
The First Barrier of ADHD
Contextual Wiring and Your Unique Value with ADHD
Mindset and Shifting Context with ADHD
Context and the Tone of Your ‘Why?’
Context Pitfalls and ADHD
Contextual Mad-Libs and ADHD
ADHD, Coaching and Context
Navigating The Three Barriers with ADHD
The Third Barrier of ADHD
Self-Care and ADHD
The Second Barrier of ADHD
Enduring Covid Stressors with ADHD
Resilience and Building a Reflective Practice with ADHD
Resilience Practices with ADHD
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