M.I.R. Why Men Need To Be In Tune With Their Emotions In Order To Avoid Major Issues In A Relationship

This podcast episode is packed with information on why it's important to be aware and in tune with our emotions. Below are some topics covered in today's informative episode.

**Practicing the concepts in this episode can drastically minimize major problems in your relationship.**

 

1)

-Our body is like a storage closet. If we don’t process the events and circumstances of the past, our body will store the emotions we experienced at the time.

Unfortunately, the brain works by repetition/association, therefore it doesn’t take a major trauma to produce the effect of the body becoming the mind.

Our body stores emotion and our mind will release the associated chemicals with the memory. 

• Mood: Short-term chemical state (few hours or days), expression of prolonged emotional reaction. The chemicals aren’t used up right away, they linger = A refractory period.
• Temperament: a tendency toward a habitual expression of emotion through certain behaviors. (weeks-months)
• Personality trait: Where the refractory period of emotion lasts months-years.

Personality (how we think/act/feel) is usually anchored in the past.

 

2)

-The word emotion comes from the Latin phrase “Energy in motion”. Researchers like Mira Kirshenbaum claim that we source more energy from our emotions than we do from the physical parts of our bodies. When you are emotionally drained you will not have energy. Mental peak states aren’t only for external success, but also necessary for relationship success.

If you have no energy all of the time with your partner, that will lead to a destructive relationship. Mood- Temperament- Personality trait.

Mira’s emotional energy framework:

*High energy drain= Grief, shock, Rage, hysteria

*Medium energy drain= worry, distrust, sadness, guilt, frustration, anger, fear, dwelling, insecurity

*Medium energy boost= Inspiration, trust, recognition, hope, joy, interest, appreciation

*High Energy boost= Love, passion, happiness, enthusiasm, amazement

 

How do you move your emotions to avoid them being stored in your body? 

1. Notice it. Expose it and understand where it is coming from
2. Allow yourself to feel it and be fully aware of it
3. Identify the lesson taught by the emotion
4. Develop and follow a new course of action

**This will need space, and for you to be removed from a familiar environment that often creates this type of emotion** I either go to the gym, to move my physical body, WHILE unpacking all of this... Or go to my meditation room/chair. There are many ways to remove yourself from a familiar environment, find the best way that works for you! **

 

If you are looking to improve your inner-being, in order to equip yourself for the life and relationship you desire and you could use some help/guidance along the way then I would love to work with you.

Going through any transformation can be extremely difficult. Don't go through this process alone. Instead, use a proven process to help you achieve the results you desire. Stop going through pain and wasting time.

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Enjoy the episode! 

Joel