YOUR TEXAS SUCK

Bobby has basically moved in. He’s got his AA and self help books spread around the kitchen, there’s Nicorette gum everywhere and his laptop that’s weirdly hooked up to an external hard drive is sitting on the table ALL THE TIME. So, I think it’s time we dig into everything that it takes to become a good dad.

Bobby brings up a recent text conversation that caused him a lot of anxiety and tension. After reading Bobby's side (side A) and I read my side (side B) we realize that we were misinterpreting each others "texas" (texts). Lesson is texting and e-mailing your feelings suck. Bobby makes Nikki promise to only share her feelings to his face...f***. 

We’ve found a blog post on what it takes to be a good dad and we’re going to go through the list and see which ones we like the best. So, here are some of the things it takes to be a good dad:

• Spend time with them
• Tell family stories
• Start a tradition
• Read together before bed
• Discipline with love and positive parenting
• Be a role model
• Eat together
• Seek involvement early
• Walk, stretch and meditate 
• Put their interest first
• Spend spare time together
• Teach self-esteem
• Teach finances
• Learn a language together
• Give hugs
• Play with them

It turns out Bobby doesn’t love the list. He’s pro starting a family tradition but not so on-board with disciplining with love and positive parenting. We’re comparing and contrasting how well he did on this list as I grew up, and his score isn’t exactly a passing grade.

This is a great lesson for distant dads and their daughters who want to restore their father-daughter relationship. It might be a little hard to go back through the list and make up for some of the lost time, but there’s more than enough that you can start doing today to make up for lost time—we might go for a hike, learn a language together or Bobby might teach me how to ride a unicycle?

It’s been a weird journey so far, and we’re just getting started! 

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