permission is promotion

What You Permit You Promote

In this episode we discuss the permission slips we give when we allow behaviors.  Parents get accustomed to doing something for their child when the child could actually do it themselves as they age.

We parents, all parents we would dare to say, sometimes allow our children to wear us down until we give them what they want. We say to ourselves and others “It’s just not a battle I’m going to fight.”  When we engage in this manner, parents are sending a signal of tolerating behaviors, actions and choices. When we give permission, we are in some ways unconsciously encouraging and promoting.

What behaviors do you want to promote, and how are you promoting those? We parents want our children to know that we are reliable. Often, we make want to make sure that they know that they can rely upon us.  We also want them to be self-reliant. As they are growing up and being promoted to legal adults this can be a balancing act. One is reliable when one is consistent.

Listen to hear how to promote the relationships that you want, based on your values.

Practice: Reflect on your own parenting practices regarding permission and promotion of behaviors. Pay attention to when you say yes/give permission.

resources

Recovering my Kid Joseph Lee

Set boundaries.  Find peace. a guide to reclaiming yourself Nedra Glover Tawaab

Chris Curtis on Discipline and Mindset

The Price of Privilege Madeline Levine

Unaddicted Nzinga Harrison