Myths and Misconceptions About Attachment Styles

Are attachment styles set in stone? Do you have to be a perfect parent to raise a securely attached child? In this episode, we’re breaking down the biggest misconceptions about attachment theory and what people often get wrong. We’ll explore why attachment is fluid and can change over time, how avoidant attachment isn’t about not needing people but rather a learned response to emotional neglect, and why anxious attachment isn’t just “needy” but rooted in a deep fear of abandonment. We’ll also dive into how healing happens, from co-regulation and self-regulation strategies to therapy tools that help move toward earned secure attachment. Whether you’ve struggled with anxious, avoidant, or disorganised attachment, this episode offers practical insights and actionable steps to support your journey toward deeper, healthier connections.

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