Episode #49 - The apology you didn‘t know you needed

• Today’s episode is title - The apology you never knew you needed.
• Jackie’s story - As you know, we’ve been married for 20 years and within that time we’ve exchanged apologies but the apology you never knew you needed is different. It’s a recognition and an act of accountability for something that was done in the past and may have been pushed back into the files of your heart and more than likely it’s collected some dust. 
• And yes..with time feelings may change or hurts can heal but in this case without recognition or an apology it can create obstacles in a marriage.
• In our early years of marriage I made the mistake of placing an unrealistic expectation on Tommy. Honestly I hadn’t even given this thought or even recognized it until recently.
• I placed a pressure on him that he could and would make certain things happen because he was my husband. Not in a bratty, “this is what I want” mentality but I had a level of dependency that was unfair to place on him.  
• He was my husband though..not a genie. The unrealistic expectation added pressure, caused frustration and disagreements earlier on in our marriage. 
• Like I said..we were young and my preconceived notions were obviously off in this area but that’s not an excuse.

 

 

• Tommy’s reaction 
  • The impact of the apology
  • How it made me feel in the past – frustration, unsure what to do, bottle up anger
  • What it meant to me

 

• How that effects your marriage before and after the apology
  • Moments you remember that make you grow together and further deepen intimacy.