Ken Adams Opens Up About Writing His First Book Silently Seduced and then Light In the Dark

Dr. Ken Adams never set out to become an author but sometimes, the story finds you before you know how to tell it. In this moving and honest conversation, Ken recounts the origin of his newest book Light in the Dark, a long-awaited exploration into the lives of adult children of sex addicts.

Speaking with Jeanne Vattunne and Wendy Conquest live at the IITAP Symposium, Dr. Adams shares how his professional path intersected with his own unresolved pain. Discovering Patrick Carnes’ work in the late ’80s opened his eyes to dynamics that felt all too familiar. Yet something essential was missing: no one was talking about what it’s like to grow up in that world.

With the support of co-authors Dr. Mary Meyer and Culle Vande Garde, Ken brings to light the internal struggles, relational patterns, and silent burdens carried by children raised in homes overshadowed by sexual addiction. For the first time, he also tells his own story, breaking the silence in a way that invites others to do the same.

This episode is about reclaiming your voice, validating your pain, and making space for healing where there’s been silence for too long.