How Do I Know When to Do More—or Pull Back?

In this episode, Rachel and Shauna unpack the messy emotions around doing “too much” or “not enough” as a parent. We talk about how guilt and resentment can be helpful signals, explore Erikson’s stages of development, and share how our different parenting values play out in everyday choices. This is one of those honest, back-and-forth chats that’ll have you thinking about your own version of medium vs. maximum.

⏳ Episode Highlights & Time Stamps

[3:10] – What guilt and resentment are really trying to tell us
[7:45] – Erikson’s stages of development and how they show up in parenting
[13:20] – Independence vs. obedience: how our values influence everyday decisions
[17:30] – Feeling the call to “go maximum” (or step back to medium)
[24:05] – Why overcorrecting from guilt sends mixed signals to our kids
[31:40] – 15 minutes a day: the power of intentional time
[36:15] – Letting emotions guide us without letting them take the wheel

🔗 Links & Resources

• Erikson’s Psychosocial Development Stages – Psychology Today
• Armchair Expert Podcast
• Better Than Happy Podcast by Jody Moore

💬 Let’s Keep the Conversation Going

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