Healing and Healthy Relationships: The Biblical Path to Wholeness • Sunday Service

Healing and Healthy Relationships: The Biblical Path to Wholeness • Sunday Service

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One of the most powerful truths in Scripture is that healing is not just for the body—it is for the heart, mind, and soul. Many of the struggles we experience in relationships stem from unhealed wounds, whether from past hurts, trauma, sin, or unmet expectations. God desires for us to be whole, and when we walk in healing, our relationships reflect His love, peace, and purpose.

Today, we will examine what the Bible says about healing and how a healed person interacts in a healthy relationship. We will also contrast this with relationships that are broken due to unhealed wounds.

I. God’s Desire for Our Healing

Before we talk about relationships, we must first understand that healing is a priority in God’s kingdom. He does not want His children to walk through life carrying pain and brokenness.

1. God is Our Healer

Exodus 15:26 (NKJV)
“and said, ‘If you diligently heed the voice of the Lord your God and do what is right in His sight, give ear to His commandments and keep all His statutes, I will put none of the diseases on you which I have brought on the Egyptians. For I am the Lord who heals you.’”

2. Healing the Brokenhearted

Psalm 147:3 (NKJV)
“He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.”

II. The Danger of Unhealed Wounds in Relationships

When we do not allow God to heal us, our relationships can become dysfunctional. Hurt people hurt people. Unresolved pain can manifest as bitterness, insecurity, control, or fear, leading to unhealthy interactions.

3. A Bitter Heart Defiles Others

Hebrews 12:15 (NKJV)
“looking carefully lest anyone fall short of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up cause trouble, and by this many become defiled;”

4. Unforgiveness Blocks Healing

Matthew 6:14-15 (NKJV)
“For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.”

5. Brokenness in Relationships is Often a Result of Our Own Wounds

James 4:1-2 (NKJV)
“Where do wars and fights come from among you? Do they not come from your desires for pleasure that war in your members? You lust and do not have. You murder and covet and cannot obtain. You fight and war. Yet you do not have because you do not ask.”

 

III. What a Healed Person Looks Like in a Relationship

A person who has been healed by God is able to engage in relationships with love, peace, and wisdom. Let’s look at the characteristics of a healed person.

6. A Healed Person Walks in Love

1 Corinthians 13:4-7 (NKJV)
“Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.”

7. A Healed Person Brings Peace into Relationships

Romans 12:18 (NKJV)
“If it is possible, as much as depends on you, live peaceably with all men.”

8. A Healed Person Listens and Responds with Wisdom

Proverbs 15:1 (NKJV)
“A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.”

9. A Healed Person is Secure in Christ

Colossians 2:10 (NKJV)
“and you are complete in Him, who is the head of all principality and power.”

10. A Healed Person is Guided by the Holy Spirit

Galatians 5:22-23 (NKJV)
“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control. Against such there is no law.”

The Call to Healing:

If you find yourself in broken relationships, ask yourself: Am I fully healed? Have I surrendered my wounds to Jesus? Many times, we want others to change, but God is first asking us to let Him transform our hearts.

Healing is not just for us—it is for those around us. A healed person brings health into every relationship, while an unhealed person can unintentionally spread pain.

Today, let’s commit to allowing the Lord to heal our wounds, renew our minds, and make us whole so that our relationships can reflect His glory.

If you recognize that you have unhealed wounds that are affecting your relationships, I invite you to lay them at the feet of Jesus today. Whether it’s bitterness, unforgiveness, insecurity, or fear, God is here to heal you. Pray and ask Him to restore every broken place so that you can love others as He intended.

May we all walk in healing and wholeness, so our relationships shine as a testimony of God’s redeeming power. Amen.

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