3 Mistakes You’re Making That Make You Second Guess a Secure Relationship

If you're in a healthy relationship but your brain won't stop spiraling... this episode is going to hit home. In this week’s episode I’m breaking down the 3 mistakes that keep high-achieving, anxious girlies stuck in the cycle of second-guessing even the most loyal and consistent partner. If you’ve ever found yourself thinking: “Why can’t I just enjoy this person?” “Why am I prepping for the breakup when everything’s going fine?” “Am I making problems where there are none?” 👀 Then this is for YOU.

I’m walking you through:

✨ The "prep for the pain" loop that keeps you emotionally exhausted

✨ Why treating your relationship like a project to manage is sabotaging your joy

✨ How mistaking surveillance for loyalty drains your connection ✨ And how to finally start trusting yourself so you can receive the love right in front of you

Whether you're dating, in a long-term relationship, or navigating love after heartbreak, this episode is your permission slip to step off the spiral ride and start feeling secure for real.

🎧 Get ready to hear:

→ Why your anxiety won’t let you enjoy a secure partner

→ The real reason you keep sabotaging connection

→ How to stop overthinking and start building self-trust

This episode is especially for my anxious attachment babes, my high-functioning overthinkers, and my career girlies who crush it at work but feel like a mess in love.

This week we’re unpacking the real reason your brain confuses anxiety for intuition (and how to stop self‑sabotaging a healthy relationship!) If you’ve ever questioned your feelings, overanalyzed your partner’s every move, or convinced yourself your anxiety was a “gut feeling,” this episode is for you!

🧠 In this episode we'll be diving into:

✨ Why “the ick” is often a fear of intimacy, not intuition

✨ How anxiety shows up as false alarms in safe relationships

✨ The difference between red flags vs. self‑protection

✨ How to stop testing your partner and start trusting connection

✨ What your nervous system is actually trying to protect you from

✨ Why discomfort doesn’t mean danger—it means growth I share a personal story about how I almost lost an incredible partner because I thought my fear was “a sign.” (Spoiler: it wasn’t.) I want you to stop mistaking safety for boredom and start building the kind of secure relationship you’ve been craving!

🫶 Whether you’re newly dating, navigating relationship anxiety, or trying to trust your GOOD partner, this episode will give you the real talk, mindset shifts, and embodiment work you didn’t know you needed.

 

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