"The frequency of actually guiding a soul towards their own autonomy is the highest level mastery position you could have in this life as a female."
Topics Discussed- Why modern motherhood feels like a trap & how to break free
- The illusion of control & how it sabotages your fertility
- How feminism may have set women up for burnout instead of freedom
- The real cost of trying to “have it all” & what to do instead
- How unresolved generational trauma affects fertility & motherhood
- Why masculine & feminine energy imbalances lead to dysfunction
- The unexpected ways children mirror your emotional wounds
- The importance of presence over perfection in parenting
- How to recognize & break toxic patterns before they pass to your kids
"You’re not here to give your man a baby or have a Pinterest-perfect pumpkin patch photoshoot with your child. You’re here to guide a soul. That’s the assignment."
Hello, beautiful - Monica here and today, we’re diving DEEP into a conversation that might shake up everything you thought you knew about motherhood, fertility, and, well… life itself.
We’re talking about the real reason so many women are burnt out, overwhelmed, and struggling—not just with fertility, but with life balance, motherhood, and relationships. You know that sneaky little voice that says, “You should be doing more”? Yeah, it’s been lying to you.
We’re breaking down the illusion of control and how it keeps you trapped in an exhausting cycle of overwork, perfectionism, and self-sacrifice. We’re exposing the dark side of feminism—the part that told us we could (and should) do it all but forgot to mention that “doing it all” comes with a side of adrenal burnout, hormone chaos, and deep dissatisfaction. And let’s talk about generational baggage, because, spoiler alert: If you don’t heal it, your kids WILL carry it.
So grab your tea (or wine, no judgment), because this episode is a no-BS, high-energy call to action to start living in a way that actually supports your body, mind, and soul. Let’s break the cycle and build something better—for us, for our children, and for the generations after that.
"Women are out here taking care of other people’s kids as teachers and nannies, nurturing other families as nurses, and completely neglecting their own. Tell me how that makes sense."
Timestamps00:00 – Hello beautiful & welcome to Finding Fertility
00:10 – The 6 essential steps to creating the family of your dreams
00:37 – Why radical responsibility is the key to fertility success
00:51 – Important disclaimer before we dive in
01:21 – Why you NEED to get your emotional sh*t together before becoming a mom
03:10 – How not unpacking your trauma keeps you stuck in struggle mode
03:40 – The REAL assignment of motherhood (hint: it’s not what society told you)
04:08 – The self-sacrificing motherhood trap & why you must escape it
05:06 – The ‘oxygen mask’ analogy & why saving yourself is saving your family
07:01 – The feminist lie that left women exhausted & infertile
09:24 – What society gets wrong about the value of feminine energy
12:14 – Girlboss culture: Empowerment or just a different kind of slavery?
17:27 – Your kids will mirror your wounds—whether you heal them or not
19:24 – The life events that finally wake women up to their patterns
23:33 – How your kids actually learn from you (hint: it’s not what you say)
27:27 – The sneaky ways women self-sabotage their fertility & happiness
30:42 – Why some people never get results from self-development work
32:07 – You have to carry your own water: No one else can do the work for you
"We’re out here ‘girlbossing’ ourselves into hormone hell, and then wondering why we’re exhausted, sick, and disconnected from our kids. Newsflash: You can’t have it all without sacrificing something."
Connect with Talie Miller:
https://taliemiller.com/
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https://substack.com/@taliemiller
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Full Transcript on the Blog: Overworked, Burnt Out & Infertile? The Real Reason Women Are Struggling with Fertility with Talie Miller Part 2 - https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/overworked-burnt-out-infertile-the-real-reason-women-are-struggling-with-fertility-with-talie-miller-part-2
Listen to more great episodes about Spirit Babies & Soul Contracts:
Finding Fertility:
Can Spirit Babies Influence Your "Infertility" Journey to Motherhood with Abigail White Part One: https://www.podbean.com/eas/pb-swpjm-15d3ad3
Unlocking the Mysteries of Spirit Babies: A Soulful Journey to Parenthood with Abigail White Part Two: https://www.podbean.com/eas/pb-sxt3x-15d3ada
Choices Podcast:
Beyond Earthly Choices: Understanding Our Spiritual Journey & Soul Contracts Kim Arneson & Abigail White Part One:
https://monicacox.podbean.com/e/soul-contracts-part-1/?token=3aa1307fa564fad67b84586fa3fa6f72
The Ripple Effect of Conscious Choices: Soul Contracts and Purpose with Kim Arneson & Abigail White Part 2: https://monicacox.podbean.com/e/soul-contracts/?token=9a3f3c1ab83d8e675e3c44220ac171fe
Breath of Life Soul Contract Series:
The Hardships of Parenting: Soul Contract Series Parenthood Edition pt One: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i0E8xA0F_bg
Guilt and Fear in Parenting: Soul Contract Series Parenthood Edition pt Two
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3QacHjzTqfY
Did you Want to be a Mom: Soul Contract Series Parenthood Edition pt Three https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FaxRZt2NpaA
Why is Parenting so Special: Soul Contract Series Parenthood Edition pt Four https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PPqGdOIntJg
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