How to Handle Conflict When You Have Completely Different Communication Styles

2025-02-17

In this episode, Kate and Eric tackle a listener's question about managing conflict styles in a marriage. "I tend to shut down during conflict—I need time to think things through before I can respond. But my wife wants to talk things out right away and gets frustrated when I withdraw. We both end up feeling unheard and frustrated. How do we find a way to resolve conflict that works for both of us?" Topics: ➡️ Different communication styles: Internal processors vs. immediate responders. ➡️ Resolution strategies: Writing thoughts po...

In this episode, Kate and Eric tackle a listener's question about managing conflict styles in a marriage.

"I tend to shut down during conflict—I need time to think things through before I can respond. But my wife wants to talk things out right away and gets frustrated when I withdraw. We both end up feeling unheard and frustrated. How do we find a way to resolve conflict that works for both of us?"

Topics:
➡️ Different communication styles: Internal processors vs. immediate responders.
➡️ Resolution strategies: Writing thoughts post-conflict and scheduling discussion times.
➡️ Personal responsibility: Acknowledging one's impact on communication breakdowns.
➡️ Constructive engagement: Using "I statements," taking breaks, and reaffirming understanding.

SHOWNOTES: https://www.evolvedmarriage.com/blog/how-to-handle-conflict-when-you-have-completely-different-communication-styles

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