What NOT to Say to a Griever (Navigating Words That Hurt and Help)

2025-05-13

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In this episode of Grief & Grit, Greer and Simonie dive into a topic that every griever has faced: the well-meaning but hurtful things people say after a loss. They discuss why some common phrases — like “everything happens for a reason” or “they’re in a better place” — can feel dismissive and painful. Greer and Simonie share personal stories, including Greer’s reflections on the fourth anniversary of Jarrod’s passing. They also address the challenge of balancing grief with life’s ongoing changes and how sometimes just being present is more powerful than saying the “right” t...

In this episode of Grief & Grit, Greer and Simonie dive into a topic that every griever has faced: the well-meaning but hurtful things people say after a loss. They discuss why some common phrases — like “everything happens for a reason” or “they’re in a better place” — can feel dismissive and painful.

Greer and Simonie share personal stories, including Greer’s reflections on the fourth anniversary of Jarrod’s passing. They also address the challenge of balancing grief with life’s ongoing changes and how sometimes just being present is more powerful than saying the “right” thing.

Listeners will gain insight into:

Why some phrases meant to comfort can feel hurtful
How to be more supportive to someone experiencing loss
Practical ways to “show up” without overwhelming a griever
Tips for allowing space and following the lead of the person grieving

Whether you’ve been on the receiving end of thoughtless comments or want to support someone going through a loss, this episode offers practical guidance and a compassionate perspective on navigating these sensitive interactions.

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