Episode 10: The Coyote Principle

Episode10 Notes: The Coyote Principle

 

What does the coyote principle mean?

 

Coyotes howling and yipping at night sounds like there has to be a whole bunch of them but people who study coyotes have found that there are rarely more than 2 or 3 together.   I remember having nightmares of huge packs of coyotes.   

 

So what does that mean for leadership?

1. Just because someone tells you that a whole lot of people are wanting something doesn't make it true.
2. Usually its just 2 maybe 3 - so ask them for names.  Usually they won't give you names because they can't.
3. The Ambush - If they come to you right before preaching or a big meeting - ask them to wait so that you can give them your attention afterward.  

 

So how should you respond?

1. Repeat back what you heard and ask "is this what you meant to say?"
2. "I hear what you are saying and I will consider it"
3. "Will you pray with me now about this?" - if they genuinely care about you and the church they will.  If not they are showing that they are trying to manipulate you. Don't have to respond with defensive excuses.  just listen or not

 

Dealing with the criticism

1. You don't always have to respond 
2. Evaluate and see if the concerns reveal some things that you really need to consider and change.
3. Make it easy for them to leave
4. Get help and support from your lay leaders
5. Guard your conversations about them: less is more
6. Watch out for bitterness