Episode 35 - Above All We Are Friends: The Centrality of Friendship to Lasting Romantic Love

2021-08-23

It’s easy for relationships to burn hot and to burn quickly out. But if you’re after lasting love, it’s the friendship that you will want to prioritize. In this episode, I explain why and how. 01:10 Many couples are struggling right now. 2:25 My high school dating experiences had nothing to do with friendship. 3:21 Having access to our desires but not being too attached to them 3:50 Cultivating friendship inside of romance calls for surrender and patience. 4:34 “Jess, I have found my person”, she exclaimed....

It’s easy for relationships to burn hot and to burn quickly out. But if you’re after lasting love, it’s the friendship that you will want to prioritize. In this episode, I explain why and how.

01:10 Many couples are struggling right now.

2:25 My high school dating experiences had nothing to do with friendship.

3:21 Having access to our desires but not being too attached to them

3:50 Cultivating friendship inside of romance calls for surrender and patience.

4:34 “Jess, I have found my person”, she exclaimed. I shuddered.

5:57 Blinded by what you wanted them to be, you missed tuning into who they actually are.

5:47 What distinguishes the friendship from the romance?

6:55 “I want nothing from you and everything for you”.

7:20 M. Scott Peck’s famous definition of love

8:37 The friendship is the water and the romance is the fire (Jewish teaching)

9:18 This week’s homework

Podcast produced by Sal DeRosalia