THE HISTORY LESSON

2020-09-02

My dad has just arrived in L.A. and we're about to spend the most amount of time together we have in our life—one week. He's 65, I'm 33, and we haven't spent more than five days together. This could be a disaster. See, Bobby wasn't around most of my life—he's a rock n'roll drummer (need I say more)—and for most of my life we’ve had an awkward, distant, pretty much non-existent relationship. He was an absent father. But a few years ago my friend's dad passed away and it made me realize how much I didn’t...

See, Bobby wasn't around most of my life—he's a rock n'roll drummer (need I say more)—and for most of my life we’ve had an awkward, distant, pretty much non-existent relationship. He was an absent father. But a few years ago my friend's dad passed away and it made me realize how much I didn’t know about my dad and that I wanted to change that.

This isn’t the first time we’ve tried to re-establish our father-daughter relationship—but we’re ready to try again. However, I’ve come to realize that he’s jumping into fatherhood at 65 and needs a little help. I’m going to have to teach him how to be a dad. And I figured why not document this journey?

This episode is all about the history of our father-daughter relationship. We’re heading back in time to discuss some of my childhood memories and how Bobby remembers them. He’s sharing his insights into our early relationship and talking about what he would do differently if he could go back now. It’s an interesting comparison—his memory versus mine.

We’re covering the time that I felt like my dad really saw me, my young adult belief that my identity was that I didn’t have a relationship with my dad and how getting information out of him is like pulling teeth. Somehow we also manage to cover Bobby’s curly hair, Mr. Rogers (the HBO documentary and not the Tom Hanks version) and fake news? I might regret this decision...

They say parenting is a life-long journey, I think it's high time for Bobby to learn how to be a father, care to come along for the ride?

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