Think others think I’m bossy, messy, uncaring, prideful ect....

How much time do you waste thinking about what others are thinking about you.  Most people spend a lot of time out side of their own brain space.  When you do that you are not keeping your own thoughts under the obedience of Christ.  When we spend time doing this we also become self-righteous in our thinking.  We actually think we are right.  This behavior is a false sense of discernment.