Why We Self-Sabotage After Betrayal: The Hidden Fear Blocking Your Healing
"The only way to show someone your emotional wound is to act wounded."
Why do we sabotage our own healing after betrayal? In this episode, Lora Cheadle unpacks the deep fears that keep us stuck in suffering, even when we desperately want to move on. From punishing our partners to protecting ourselves from hope, success, or vulnerability, Lora walks listeners through the unconscious ways we stay small—and how to stop. With raw h...
Why We Self-Sabotage After Betrayal: The Hidden Fear Blocking Your Healing
"The only way to show someone your emotional wound is to act wounded."
Why do we sabotage our own healing after betrayal? In this episode, Lora Cheadle unpacks the deep fears that keep us stuck in suffering, even when we desperately want to move on. From punishing our partners to protecting ourselves from hope, success, or vulnerability, Lora walks listeners through the unconscious ways we stay small—and how to stop. With raw honesty, personal stories, and expert insight, this episode is your invitation to finally show your healing instead of your pain.
TOP 3 TAKEAWAYS:
- Self-sabotage after betrayal is a subconscious attempt to stay safe, avoid disappointment, and keep the emotional spotlight off ourselves.
- Many betrayed partners resist healing to "prove a point" or to punish their partner—unconsciously hurting themselves in the process.
- Healing becomes possible when you commit to feeling good, receiving love, and breaking your own patterns of isolation and protection.
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About Lora:
Lora Cheadle is a betrayal recovery coach, attorney, and TEDx speaker who helps women heal from betrayal on an energetic, emotional, and ancestral level—while also providing legal guidance to help them navigate the practical complexities of infidelity and relationship transitions. She empowers women to rise from the ashes, reclaim their identity and self-worth, break free from repeating patterns, and step into their power with confidence, clarity, and grace.
After being shattered by her husband's fifteen years of infidelity, Lora knows firsthand what it takes to transform devastation into an invitation for healing, freedom, and joy. Her unique approach blends deep emotional healing with tangible legal and life strategies, guiding women beyond betrayal into lives of unapologetic confidence and purpose.
As the founder of Life Choreography Coaching & Advocacy, Lora provides comprehensive legal, emotional, intellectual, and spiritual support on demand. She believes that infidelity doesn’t have to be the end of the dream you poured your heart and soul into—it can be the beginning of a life filled with sovereignty, connection, and joy.
Licensed to practice law in California and Colorado, Lora is also a trauma-aware coach, clinical hypnotherapist, somatic attachment therapist, and advanced integrated energy practitioner. She is certified in yoga, mindfulness, group fitness, and personal training, bringing a holistic perspective to healing.
She is the author of FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy, & Spiritual Self (an International Book Awards Finalist and Tattered Cover Bestseller) and It’s Not Burnout, It’s Betrayal: 5 Tools to FUEL UP & Thrive. She also hosts the podcast FLAUNT! Create a Life You Love After Infidelity and Betrayal.
Based in Colorado, Lora is an adventure-seeker who loves travel, a great book, and saying yes to life’s magic.
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