5 Strategies for Forgiving Yourself with Holly Herzog, Counselor (Ep 116)

What Are We Discussing In This Episode?

In this episode, we focus on five strategies that you can use to forgive yourself after narcissistic abuse:

• Acknowledge and accept what actually happened in the relationship (02:30)
• Look at your past (05:23)
• Be patient with yourself (08:17)
• Release the emotions (11:27)
• Learn what secure attachment looks like (17:59)

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More Information About the Host & Holly Herzog

The host, Juliana Akin, is a co-founder of Unfilteredd, a lawyer, and a survivor of narcissistic abuse. She creates content about narcissism and narcissistic abuse to share her personal experiences with healing because she hopes that by sharing her journey, she can help you navigate yours.

Holly is a licensed professional counselor and she works with individuals and couples and specializes in relationship issues. She loves working with people in life transition (like a divorce or job loss) and she helps her clients cope with grief, come to terms with their new reality, and begin to dream about possibilities.

Free Resources

• Exercises and Tips for More Secure Attachment (Free PDF)
• Join Our Free Community

Other Resources

• Attachment Style Quiz
• The Power of Attachment: How to Create Deep and Lasting Intimate Relationships by Diane Poole Heller Ph.D. and Peter Levine Ph.D.
• Wired for Love: How Understanding Your Partner's Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a Secure Relationship by Stan Tatkin PsyD MFT and Harville Hendrix PhD
• The Attachment Theory Workbook: Powerful Tools to Promote Understanding, Increase Stability, and Build Lasting Relationships by Annie Chen 
• Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love by Amir Levine, Rachel Heller, et al.

Suggested Podcast Episodes

• 5 Strategies for Overcoming Shame with Laura Bonk, Counselor
• 5 Strategies for Overcoming Self-Blame with Leanne Cameron (Counselor)
• Empathy, Patience, and Gratitude in Self after Narcissistic Abuse with Jane Ajaya (LCSW)

Podcast Music: Creative Commons Music by Jason Shaw on Audionautix.com