Ep. 63: It’s Not your Job to be Everything to Everyone

Ever feel like it's your responsibility to make others happy? Or better yet...like it's your responsibility to make sure you don't upset anyone?? 

 

I grew up with an amazing mother, who always put everyone else's needs above her own. So what did I learn? To also put everyone else's needs above my own. 

 

Not only that...but I also learned to not "rock the boat", or upset anyone. So I spent a lot of my years walking on eggshells, absorbing everyone else's opinions, and people-pleasing my way through relationships. It's no wonder that I had no idea who I was until my mid-twenties. 

 

And then one day I learned this concept...I don't have to be everything to everyone. I'm allowed to upset people by just being myself, or speaking my mind. And guess what?? Their feelings are their responsibility. Not mine to take on. 

 

When I learned to set boundaries, and stopped spreading myself thin...things changed. I got to discover who I really am. What I believe...what I love...what I don't love...and it was such a liberating experience. 

 

But it can be hard, especially as women, to release the idea that we should be able to "fix", or "save" everyone around us. So on this episode of the podcast, I'm sharing the ways in which lacking boundaries stifles your joy, negatively impacts your health, and holds you back from your biggest dreams. And most importantly...I'm gonna teach you some mindset shifts and tips for detaching. 

 

P.S. Have you heard??? I've created a community for us to get together and become better, healthier versions of ourselves through habit change with heaps of self-compassion! Come join us in the All or Something Lifestyle Facebook Group! Click here to join. 

 

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