109: When He’s Doing Well, But She Can’t Reciprocate the Love

Many couples feel overwhelmed by feeling stuck despite trying to take positive steps forward. A woman can often feel afraid to bring her wall down, or she might feel so hurt that she can't really give a whole lot to the relationship.

This situation can be difficult for both people, and a husband can feel discouraged when he's doing well but his efforts might not be bringing down the wall as he would have hoped.

Tune in to learn how to address the common concerns and fears that couples have:

• If I don’t move forward quickly, will he spiral back into the pornography?

• What if I do show love and then he thinks I’m just over it and past it now - will he stop trying? Go back to how things were?
• Fear that if she brings the wall down and then just get hurt again.
• He feels discouraged that he’s doing well, but in his mind she’s holding on to the past, won’t forgive, and their relationship will never get better.

   

In this episode I offer tools and insights to help you navigate these difficult places.

 

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