27. Creating Boundaries: Truths, Myths, Testimony, and Freedom

For forty years, I struggled with setting and holding boundaries. Forty years is a long time. With confidence, I can say that learning the truth about boundaries and learning how to set effective boundaries has transformed my life.  

Unpopular fact: setting boundaries isn't easy. Talk is easy. These days, it seems that everyone is talking about boundaries. But do they really know how to do it?

What if you struggle with:

• People Pleasing
• Imposter Syndrome
• Perfectionism
• Self-worth
• Lack of positive experience
• ADHD

Setting boundaries can feel overwhelming, especially when you struggle with any or all of the above challenges. I know this first-hand. Simplistic, superficial, half-baked answers won't work for us. Actually, they won't work for anyone. Most people don't know how to set effective boundaries.

What if you have family or a work situation where your boundaries are constantly challenged? What if you've tried before and experienced criticism, pushback, and feel less than confident to try again? If you're like many women I've coached, you may believe that boundaries just don't work. But it may mean that you weren't creating effective boundaries. It could be that just one or two features were missing. It could be that some pre-work wasn't completed. Trust me, boundaries work. It's going to take some work, curiosity, time, and courage. It will be 100% worth it.

Once I reached the end of my rope, I put everything into learning the truth about boundaries. I needed to unlearn some things too, like:

• Setting boundaries are selfish
• God wants me to put myself last
• Good people will reject me
• I can't trust myself to set boundaries

Today's episode is part one of the Essential Boundaries series. No matter your past experience with boundaries, you will want to listen to every episode because:

1. Boundaries are essential
2. As life brings change, we will experience new boundary challenges

It's my desire to bring you some of the most helpful ideas, truths, strategies, and inspiration I've learned over the years about boundaries. I hope the stories inspire you, and that God's word empowers you to create your own plan for bringing effective boundaries forward for more focus, space, and freedom.

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Have a beautiful day and make something wonderful of it!

Kerri Goodman, Certified Life Coach, ADHD Coach, Certified Behavior Consultant, Mentor, and Believer in God's purpose for you and your FREEDOM!

MA, CPLC, ACC

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