Lovers or Roommates? Marriage, Intimacy & Communication After Kids // 3

Feeling more like house managers than husband and wife? Elyse (AUS) and Michelle (USA) get real about marriage after kids—date nights, scheduling sex, and why most “intimacy issues” are often communication issues. With humour, honesty, and hope, they share practical rhythms and a gospel-centred vision for oneness.

3 Key Takeaways

1. Communication first: many intimacy roadblocks are actually unspoken expectations and unclear communication.

2. Intimacy is multi-layered: emotional vulnerability, prayer, laughter, and physical connection all help “reset” oneness.

3. Intentionality beats spontaneity: scheduling connection (and kid-swaps or a simple movie night) keeps you lovers, not roommates.

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Contact
Elyse – @wholesomemumma
Michelle – @itsmemichellecastro
Email – christianmotherhood@gmail.com

 

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