The shocking thing that keeps women stuck and the truth about toxic relationships with Terra Mattson

The shocking thing that keeps women stuck and the truth about toxic relationships  with Terra Mattson

Hey Hey! It’s a new year and I’m so happy you are here. Today we are talking about familiarity and how easy it is for us to get stuck, self-sabotage, and fall into the familiar.

Have you ever wondered why you keep going back to what is familiar? On the show, we discuss why we always go towards what is familiar and how to create habits to change and deepen our emotional maps. 

Terra Mattson is a licensed marriage and family therapist and licensed professional counselor who has practiced for nearly two decades and oversees a team of 20 clinicians. 

Terra’s first book,  Courageous: Being Daughters Rooted in Grace, reminds us that the transformation of our relationships, communities, and culture begins with God’s work in our own lives. Her second book, Shrinking the Integrity Gap: Between What Leaders Preach and Live calls readers to discover how real leadership is a way of being and how it’s sustained over the long haul.

Join Terra and I as we discuss: 

• How it is easy for us to fall into familiarity

• Creating habits to deepen our emotional maps

• Why familiarity can keep us stuck

• Being honest in toxic relationships

Favorite quotes:

• “So whatever we do in life, we tend to be drawn towards what is familiar and what we grew up with intentionally or unintentionally.  Part of the challenge is learning what that is, deciding if that is really healthy, and how to slowly start to make some shifts.”

 

• “No matter how healthy we are or how aware we are we still can be in a fallen world around toxic people.”

 

• “Anything that is unfamiliar is uncomfortable for a time.”

 

• “Part of learning and growing in maturity is being able to trust your own discernment.”

 

• “We do not change by knowledge alone. The way God made it, we change by new experiences over and over and over.”

Coaching this week: 

1. 5 Powerful Self-Reflection Questions (29:54) 

Links to great things we discussed: 

• Terra Mattson Website

• Terra Mattson Instagram

• The Living Wholehearted Podcast

• Shrinking the Integrity Gap

• Alli on YouTube

• Little Things Studio

Order your copy of Remaining You While Raising Them here.

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xo,

Alli