Stop Fighting, Start Loving: Game-Changing Wisdom from ’Us’

2025-01-06

In this episode of the Live Free Love Life podcast, host Mindy Neal reviews the transformative relationship book 'Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship' by Terrence Real. Mindy discusses how the book's insights on individualism and relational living can overhaul your approach to love and connection. Key concepts include recognizing patterns from childhood, understanding the adaptive child and wise adult within us, and a five-step formula for handling conflict constructively. Mindy also addresses common objections...

In this episode of the Live Free Love Life podcast, host Mindy Neal reviews the transformative relationship book 'Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship' by Terrence Real.

Mindy discusses how the book's insights on individualism and relational living can overhaul your approach to love and connection. Key concepts include recognizing patterns from childhood, understanding the adaptive child and wise adult within us, and a five-step formula for handling conflict constructively. Mindy also addresses common objections and provides real-world examples for practical application.

⌚ TIMESTAMPS

00:00 Introduction: Transform Your Love Life

00:26 Book Review: 'Us' by Terrence Real

01:29 The Flaws of Individualism in Relationships

04:25 Understanding the Adaptive Child and Wise Adult

05:26 The Neuroscience of Relationship Conflicts

06:12 Attachment Theory and Trauma in Relationships

07:20 Five Behaviors That Destroy Relationships

10:03 Real's Five-Step Formula for Conflict Resolution

10:47 Janet Hurley's Feedback Wheel for Difficult Conversations

12:29 Addressing Common Objections to Relationship Change

13:42 Real-World Applications of Real's Principles