Ep. 74 ”No Matter How Hard I Work, I Won’t Get What I Want” - Shamara ”Star” Cox’s False Narrative

From a young age, Star was plagued by a deep-seated belief that no matter how hard she tried, she would never get what she wanted in life. This stemmed from heartbreaking experiences with her father, who would make promises to her but then fail to follow through.

When Star was 10, she asked her father for a bike, but after months of waiting, the bike he finally gave her was much too large. Other requests were met with similar disappointment - her father would tell her to just wait, but by the time he followed through, the opportunity had passed. These patterns reinforced Star's conviction that her efforts were futile. This belief carried into Star's adult life. Despite graduating college with honors, she struggled to find a good job, eventually settling for an internship-level position making the same pay as high school students.

Star was devastated, feeling like her achievements were mocking her. She began a years-long battle with depression and crippling self-doubt. At age 27, Star had a transformative moment. During a retreat, she was faced with a choice - join a lifeboat and potentially survive, or go down with the sinking ship. In that instant, Star chose to live. She heard God whisper to her, "Choose to live, and live passionately."

This was a turning point that broke the hold of her depression. The road to healing was not easy. Star had to carefully identify the root beliefs driving her despair, relying on practices like prayer, journaling, and defining her emotions. Bit by bit, she was able to let go of her long-held conviction that hard work meant disappointment. In its place, she developed a new trust in God's plan rather than her own efforts. Now, Star is dedicated to maintaining daily habits that keep her grounded and at peace, like meditation and self-care. Most importantly, she is committed to choosing passion and purpose in her life, no matter the circumstances. Her advice to others is to embrace the healing process, understanding that life's challenges often contain the seeds of growth. With her newfound perspective, Star is determined to write a new narrative for her life - one filled with hope, not despair.

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