My mom said, she doesn't visit nor has visited over the past 6 years.... because she is allergic to cats.
Per surgeon, when asked about support from family... his response,
"There are many allergy medications and even an EPI pen available. There is no excuse for not being there for your kids when it comes to their health."
I made contact with the funeral home today, and estate attorney. My cousin suggested ...
My mom said, she doesn't visit nor has visited over the past 6 years.... because she is allergic to cats.
Per surgeon, when asked about support from family... his response,
"There are many allergy medications and even an EPI pen available. There is no excuse for not being there for your kids when it comes to their health."
I made contact with the funeral home today, and estate attorney. My cousin suggested that my father fronts both bills because as she said, "Your grandmother left money for the family and for important matters. This is important."
If I need to set up a GoFundMe, I will let everyone know by late next week.
I feel like, I got most everything accomplished on my wishes, minus finishing my own obituary. I can't fathom anyone else writing it for me. Especially those who chose not to be there during the hard times, as well during and after oncology treatments. They need to understand, those decisions and how you treated me were never OK. I also need to work with the funeral home on making sure there is a pastor who will be present during the entire crematory process. I want the clergy to hear my voice, at least once on the phone, to learn a bit about myself... my back story. I don't want to be just another shell that's left of oneself... another crematory service to attend. It's important to me... that he or she learns about my life. I also want clergy to be 100% present through the entire process for me... my body. I never had that unconditional support from family... so it's extremely important to me, that I am still respected. My body is still respected, all the way to giving those on the will, my cremains.
Any parent, or parents should per professional, "Be fully aware of a son or daughter's final wishes. That includes, asking if they have clothes they desire for funeral services, passwords of accounts, copy of will, and anything else of importance. It's normal to ask of these things." I brought this up to my mom on the phone, because they have not, nor ever asked of any of the mentioned.
I asked my mom point blank, "How are you going to know where anything is at, if you never asked? Her reply, "I'll just walk around the house." How is she, after my passing, going to just come on over... and walk around my house that has cats.?.. You see my point and doctors points... exact! You are allergic to cats, but I haven't heard of my mom ever mentioning any allergist?. Just coming over to a house of the deceased, as well, doesn't always work folks, and no one should assume anything with family. People hide things, lock up things, and so on and so on... My Grandmother hid things under carpet for crying out loud.
It's concerning. It's not ok. You should already know... want to know. Parents should be asking all of these extremely important questions. Her response, now has me resorting back on a few final wishes, especially with the estate attorney. However, I no longer argue with people... my energy is reserved for myself. It's important to be selfish now in my life. That's energy, I now need.
In the end, my greatest wish, is that this podcast teaches everyone that those that are sick, deserve unconditional EVERYTHING. Unconditional Love, Unconditional Support. It should come to those who should be supportive to you as a patient... as easy as air you breathe.
*A grave lesson for everyone.
*An important reminder for all.
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