"Your body innately knows how to do fertility—it’s just waiting for you to stop micromanaging."
Topics Discussed
The unseen ways clinging to the identity of “the one who’s trying” can hold you back
Why letting go doesn’t mean giving up – and what it actually does for your fertility
The role of hope in your journey and when it shifts from empowering to sabotaging
The difference between wanting and having – and how to shift into the energy of “having”
The sneaky way stress and control are keeping your body from feeling safe enough for pregnancy
What radical honesty really looks like on this journe...
"Your body innately knows how to do fertility—it’s just waiting for you to stop micromanaging."
Topics Discussed
- The unseen ways clinging to the identity of “the one who’s trying” can hold you back
- Why letting go doesn’t mean giving up – and what it actually does for your fertility
- The role of hope in your journey and when it shifts from empowering to sabotaging
- The difference between wanting and having – and how to shift into the energy of “having”
- The sneaky way stress and control are keeping your body from feeling safe enough for pregnancy
- What radical honesty really looks like on this journey (spoiler: it’s not just positive thinking)
- How your subconscious beliefs about infertility could be shaping your reality
- The importance of embodying trust, surrender, and joy – and how to actually do it
"You can’t have and want at the same time."
Show Notes
Hello, Beautiful! Monica here to shake things up and throw a little radical honesty your way.
Ever feel like you’re trapped in the never-ending cycle of “trying” to get pregnant? Like your whole existence has somehow become wrapped up in charting, Googling, and second-guessing every decision? Well, buckle up, because we’re about to dive into why that’s a huge part of the problem.
This episode is all about the identity you’ve unknowingly taken on—the one who is always trying. And guess what? That identity might just be keeping you stuck. We’re talking about why your subconscious clings to this label, how hope (yes, even hope) can sometimes keep you in limbo, and why shifting from wanting to having is the secret sauce you didn’t know you needed.
I also get into the real reason your body might not be “playing along” with your fertility goals (spoiler: it’s not because it’s broken). It’s because stress and control are energy vampires, and your body needs to feel safe before it gives the green light to baby-making.
So if you’re ready to ditch the death grip on your journey, trust your body, and step into the energy of having, this episode is your permission slip to finally let go. Let’s do this!
Read Truth #6: The Identity of ‘The One Who’s Trying’ https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/the-identity-of-the-one-who-s-trying
Timestamps
01:30 – The inspiration for this episode: a perfectly timed post about letting go
02:53 – Why clinging to the “trying” identity could be keeping you in an endless loop
04:48 – The sneaky way your subconscious labels shape your reality (and how to shift it)
06:42 – You can’t have and want at the same time—how to embody trust instead
07:48 – Why white-knuckling your way through this journey is an energy drain
08:44 – The magic in the mundane: shifting from lack to joy in everyday life
09:37 – Hope isn’t the problem…until it is. When hope keeps you stuck instead of moving forward
11:33 – The fear that keeps you gripping control: If I let go, am I giving up? (Spoiler: nope)
12:48 – How your body actually thrives when you stop stressing over every little detail
14:15 – Why quick fixes don’t work & what to focus on instead
15:14 – A sneak peek at next week’s episode: a game-changing fertility breakthrough session!
"Hope is supposed to be a bridge, not a place where you set up camp and live forever."
I'm deep-diving into TEN truths, peeling back the layers of chaos with practical tools, empowering insights, and her real-life experiences. Whether you’re feeling stuck in your fertility journey or wrestling with overwhelm and doubt in another area of life, these conversations offer a roadmap to healing and transformation.
ALL 10 TRUTHS: Why Grief Isn’t Failure: The Raw Truth About Infertility and Healing - Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/why-grief-isn-t-failure-the-raw-truth-about-infertility-and-healing
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Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.
