#283 - You Ask, We Answer - 49

After many hours of contemplation, considering, and real reflection, Christy has decided to step out and away from weddings, events, and podcasting. This is her last episode, and while we are so sad to see her go, we know she has great and beautiful things ahead of her.

Christy shares her favorite experiences on the podcast, her love for Michelle, and what lies ahead for her.

Question #1:

My partner and I have been together for a decade and we're finally getting married in May of 2022 in Mexico City. I've always wanted a destination wedding weekend, and I'm so excited to have it in a city as opposed to on a beach resort. However, I'm a little torn on what to do about the hotels. Seeing as most people are coming from the states, and may not have been to Mexico City before, would you recommend limiting options and encouraging guests to stay together at the large hotel (for ease of transportation, etc)? Or do you think most people will prefer the charm of the smaller hotels and don't mind being scattered? We plan to provide a few different price points for people, but generally, luxury hotels in CDMX are cheaper than those in the U.S.

Question #2:

I have an invitation etiquette question! A bit of context: My fiancé and I are paying for the majority of the wedding and keeping the price to ourselves. My parents are divorced and have been for over 20 years. It wasn’t always civil, but it’s much better now and everyone gets along. Mostly. My dad is contributing a generous amount. My dad will most likely play host as we’re getting married at the venue he and my stepmom got married at 14 years ago. I love my mom and she’s contributing in any way she can. Leaving her off wouldn’t feel okay. And my fiancé’s parents are paying for a pretty extravagant rehearsal dinner for 50+ people, so having them on feels right too. The complication is my step dad. He’s a nice guy. But he’s only been around officially for the past 4 years. He and my mom have been off and on since BEFORE my parents were divorced (as in while my parents were married way back when) and while I’m sure things will remain civil at the wedding, it will be the first time my dad and stepdad are meeting after all of these years and my dad essentially holds my stepdad responsible for ruining our family. Regardless, leaving him off feels very blatantly like leaving someone off given how many people we’re including. And putting him on the invitation feels completely wrong. I look forward to building my relationship with the man my mom has loved for so long, but honoring him on the invitation just doesn’t feel right. So what do we do? Do we include all parents except my stepdad even though my mom is remarried? It doesn’t feel right to have him on there and it feels like a massive disrespect to my dad. But it feels disrespectful to my mom and my stepdad to leave him off. And leaving off all parents doesn’t feel right because they’re helping with the wedding and honestly, we want to honor them and say thank you. Any advice on what to do and invitation phrasing would be much appreciated!!

Links We Referenced

emilypost.com/shop/books/emily-posts-wedding-etiquette-6th-edition

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