#312 You Ask, We Answer - 55

Our monthly episode of You Ask, We Answer; where we take time to listen to our audience’s questions, select top trending picks, and answer them on the show. This month Michelle's co-host is an extra special, familiar voice, Christy Matthews! 

Question 1:

My fiancé’s grandma used to yodel professionally. Yes - not singing, but yodeling. She’s in her 90s now and definitely misses her yodeling career. She yodels at every opportunity when she leaves the house. 

I am worried that she will try to steal the show at our wedding. There will be lots of new faces for her - a fresh audience.

I know that it would mean a lot to my fiancé if we have her perform a song. And I think 1 song would be acceptable, but how do I draw (and enforce) the line? 

Question 2: 

Do you have any suggestions for something casual in terms of welcome drinks and also something casual to say goodbye at the end of the weekend? 

Question 3: 

I’m dealing with something very difficult for my January 14 wedding. My older sister who I always assumed would be one of my maid/matrons of honor told me 3 weeks ago that she didn't want to be in the wedding and she thought it should just be me and my friends. We have a hard relationship, 8 years apart, and this was sad and hurtful to me.... Then last week she called to tell us that she’s pregnant with her third baby! This is exciting... but her due date it January 13- the day before my wedding She lives in Texas and I’m in Florida so this means she wouldn’t be able to even attend, no flower girls, and I’m so happy for her but heartbroken at the same time because I can’t picture my wedding without her. I think most of it is out of my control at this point. Any thoughts?

Question 4:

I’m struggling with how to tell a girl who I’m not close with that she isn’t in the bridal party. She’s made so many assumptions that she is and references to bridesmaid dresses and it’s just incredibly uncomfortable. She got mad at me for not inviting her when I went dress shopping. I’m a people pleaser so I was tempted to just include her, but her personality is not one I want around me on my special day (she will still be a guest). 

Question 5:

My fiance and his mother are not very close. His brother’s wedding anniversary is a week before our wedding. His mother wants us to dedicate a song to them. We will not be doing that. I want to reach out to her and let her know that we will not be dedicating our wedding to them. I know this may sound mean, but I know this woman and she will keep pushing unless I set boundaries. What do you think? Should I just ignore it? Or say something? 

Question 6:

When is the bridal/wedding shower held? I've seen and heard everything from 2 months to 5 months before the wedding date. Does the timeframe matter?

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