#191 Save The Date! Change The Date!

With so many amazing guests on their way for upcoming shows we wanted to take moment and host a learning episode! On today's show we break down the whole topic of Save The Dates and get into the details. In light of having to reschedule, and communicate much more with your wedding guests, we know the topic is on a lot of people’s minds.

Big Takeaways

When you should send them:

• Destination weddings
• Just moved and having the wedding away from old friends
• Classic advice says send them out to every guest as soon as you pick your date
• Include the dates, and maybe the town (or venue if you’ve locked it down), there is no other information needed.
• Keep it simple.
• Send between 12-16 weeks before wedding.
• Invitations 8-10 weeks.
• Do not send Save The Dates to your B-List!! They aren't a necessary element of your wedding planning.
• If you are having a weekday wedding, add the day of the week on the Save The Date. It helps so they know they need to take time off.
• Even if your wedding website isn’t complete, still put it on the Save The Date. It can grow as you book and change things. It’s a great reference for your guests to have. Even if it says “information coming soon.”

Q&As

Q. Do you need to send “re-save the dates” for coronavirus couples who postponed?

Q. Is it insensitive to send STDs in the middle of a global pandemic? (This is for a later wedding)

Q. Can you touch on “change the dates”? And if it’s tacky to add a new RSVP in it? I don’t want

to go full blown invitation again.

Q. We sent an Save The Date, but now we want to postpone. We printed our official invites. Thoughts on sending with an X on the date with a TBD?

Q. Is it ever okay to send Save The Date's to some but not all your guests? As in the people you really want there who would need to travel but not to the ones you’re hoping will say no.

Q. Can we put extra information on the Save The Date and not use our website or would it look too busy? For example, since we have a lot of out of state guests, we’d like to mention that it’s a kids free wedding and want the Save The Dates to state that so they have time to find childcare? Or should we just put that information on the website and hope they figure it out?

Q. When you send save the dates with a link to your wedding website, what info should you have on your wedding website? I just have photos and travel info. Should I include FAQs? Is it worth including wedding weekend events if times aren't set in stone yet?

Q. I'm still creating my save the dates, but I'm not sure what would be the best option. I like the

idea of a video invitation for my modern savvy friends and family and paper invitations for our grandparents, parents and older folks. Should I just do one method because I may be spending too much time thinking about this or is mixing it up worth it? Is mixing it up something common and doable?

Links We Referenced

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