Edging: The Sneaky Behavior that Keeps Men Stuck in Addiction

2025-10-01

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support! ---------- In this episode, I welcome back Vern Tompke to discuss the evolving challenges men face in recovering from pornography addiction. We dive into this concept of “edging”—using social media or other kinds of media for arousal without fully acting out—and how today’s digital landscape complicates recovery. Vern shares his personal journey, practical strategies, and the imp...

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!

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In this episode, I welcome back Vern Tompke to discuss the evolving challenges men face in recovering from pornography addiction. We dive into this concept of “edging”—using social media or other kinds of media for arousal without fully acting out—and how today’s digital landscape complicates recovery.

Vern shares his personal journey, practical strategies, and the importance of daily connection and removing triggers. Together, we explore the biological, emotional, and spiritual sides of addiction, emphasizing that true recovery isn’t just about avoidance, but about pursuing a richer, more connected life.

To learn more about Vern and the resources he has, visit BandofBrothers.care.

Topics Covered in this Episode:

The concept of "edging" in relation to pornography addiction and recovery.
Vern Tompke's personal journey with pornography addiction and his transition into helping others.
The impact of social media platforms on recovery and the new challenges they present.
The biological, emotional, and spiritual dimensions of addiction and recovery.
The importance of daily connection and accountability in the recovery process.
The distinction between "red," "yellow," and "green" behaviors in the context of recovery.
The role of dopamine and intermittent reinforcement in addiction and recovery.
The necessity of replacing unhealthy behaviors with positive activities.
The misconception that recovery is solely about avoiding pornography.
The long-term journey of recovery and the importance of pursuing a fulfilling life beyond addiction.