Identify the transformative opportunities. Some may refer to them as problems, stress or undesirable issues that are going on in your life.
Are you stressed out just thinking about them?
Do you believe things are out of your control?
Being in control is a fallacy. The only thing you have control over is how you act towards transformative change, so change is the only constant.
Once you've grasped this fact, flashes of insight emerge, and life becomes easier.