Families Navigating Addiction & Recovery

64: Dr. Ed Tick Shares How Families Can Combat Our Nation’s Leading Disease - Denial - and Stop Patterns of Addiction Trickling Down Through Generations

“Be your own favorite patient... And whatever you're struggling with makes life really deep and brings you growth and wisdom. Don't turn away from it; embrace it as riches for you to mine, to gain love and wisdom for the rest of your life.” –Dr. Ed Tick   There’s a strong diversion in the healing spectrum called denial. Apparently, it is the nation’s leading disease as well. It’s hardly pounded within cultures, ancestral lines, communities and families and there’s no escaping its grip. Learn how to combat denial and transgenerational trauma as the American shadow gets exposed and a new perspective on addiction leads to a new identity. Move towards an addiction-free and happy family life with today’s episode. An enduring positive change is on the horizon. Your next move is a step nearer that bright tomorrow.   Get the show notes, transcription and resources mentioned at http://thefamilyrecoverysolution.com/   Highlights: 03:53 Dr. Ed Tick on Addiction as a “Symptom” 15:42 How Families Can Help and Receive Help 24:16 We’re Well or Ill Together 31:50 Denial & Transgenerational Trauma 39:01 Assume Your Identity 44:54 Sending Out Your Recovery Message 49:13 Ancestral Healing 55:34 The American Shadow Exposed 58:01 Be Your Own Favorite Patient

63: If the Solution to Addiction in Your Family is Intervention, What Type is Best for Your Situation?

“I really have a lot of faith in the power of family coming together.” –Jeff Jones   We’re in for another special treat! In this episode, Rex West interviews our very own, Jeff Jones. Jeff shares a bit of his background and how he became “the Jeff Jones” that we know today. His story pictures how families deal with their own crisis and the role each one takes on which can potentially create a larger dilemma for their family. Jeff’s experiences helped him see the patterns around addiction and how this creates a massive impact around the family’s well-being as a whole. As a therapist, Jeff sheds light on the subtle aspects of addiction and which type of intervention is best for a specific family situation.   Jeff believes in the power of families. Of course, family crisis is inevitable and it comes in many faces and intensity. But a family is specifically built so that no one will have to face these problems alone. As a coach, Jeff helps families see their situation in a new lens, one that magnifies hope and gives a clear picture of how resilient they can be.   Get the show notes, transcription and resources mentioned at http://thefamilyrecoverysolution.com/   Highlights: 03:20 The Inside Story of Jeff Jones 13:32 Why Families Do Not Understand Their Own Story 21:37 How the Past Haunt the Present 28:16 A Solid Decision to Change and Help Make a Change 31:23 The Role of Roles 40:03 The Neuroscience of Addiction 43:52 What Type of Intervention is Best for Your Situation? 52:01 The Family’s Recovery Message 54:06 Unique Intervention with Jeff

62: Abstinence- An Inappropriate Way to Measure Recovery with Dr. Adi Jaffe

“It's never too late. And it's never really hopeless, ever.” –Dr. Adi Jaffe Recovery is not a “fix” and neither is it measured by mere abstinence. The impression we get must go beyond what the eyes can see. To really work out the issue, a solid connection and understanding must be established. No one is better than the other. Some just had a better circumstance; thus, sympathy plays a major role in recovery. Discover the epigenetics of addiction and how shaming becomes a destroyer in a deeper sense. Travel through the untold stories behind why people become hesitant to undergo treatment and how to effectively address them. Today’s episode serves as a testimony that it’s never too late. There’s always a light at the end of the tunnel and it gets brighter every step you take. So go on and don’t lose hope. Get the show notes, transcription and resources mentioned at    http://thefamilyrecoverysolution.com/   Highlights: 02:45 From Jailed to Hailed   10:25 5 Reasons Why People Shun Treatment and How To Address Them 16:40 Give Unconditional Help and Eliminate Shaming 21:16 Where the Problem is Lies 26:48 Epigenetics- When the Environment Controls Biology 31:26 The Inappropriate Way to Measure Recovery 39:09 Give Them A Break

61: Master Coach & Drama Triangle Expert, Barb McAllister Openly Shares About Her Recent Challenges and Successes

“You don't have to be a coach, a professional coach, to cultivate some of the most important coaching skills.” –Barb McAllister   Perhaps, humans are endowed with that superhero attitude to go and rescue somebody. Sometimes, though, people tend to have a distorted view of a distress call. Not everybody needs to be rescued. Although the motive is right, the outcome may not be as beneficial for both the ‘rescuer’ and the person being ‘rescued'. This episode expounds on the drama triangle, particularly on the ‘rescuer’ role and the disadvantages of stepping into this role. Recovery is not far off from your reach. Sometimes, to help others, you might need to start with yourself. Listen in and see how the drama in your family can turn into happy ending story.   Get the show notes, transcription and resources mentioned at http://thefamilyrecoverysolution.com/   Highlights: 01:30 Growing Up in a Family with a Lot of Drama 05:17 How to Relate to Yourself 15:14 The Drama Triangle 25:54 Maintaining a Healthy Boundary 30:29 The Door Out of the Rescuer Role 35:58 The Right Question Before Jumping In 40:49 Get Off the Roller Coaster 44:25 Be Aware of Your Own Triggers

60: Parenting a Struggling Kid: Acceptance and the Role of Connection with Brooks Witter

“It's scary when your kids are going off the rails and you don't know what to do, and you're frustrated and feel kind of hopeless or helpless. That's when you need to take care of yourself so that the steps that you do take are informed by your best thinking. Take time… Find a way back to yourself so that you can bring your best self to this work.” –Brooks Witter   Raising an adolescent is indeed a really challenging role for parents. It’s when the kid is finally crossing the bridge between childhood and adulthood. Around this period, the family is turned upside down. As teenagers witness and experience the sufferings in this world, they become more and more confused. Others act out while others withdraw and in time it becomes a head-on family struggle. Today’s episode is packed with guidelines and wisdom to help you towards your goal to get them through this troubled years and launch them as happy, responsible adults. Take care of both your teens and yourselves. Don’t get your hopes up. You can be successful and fulfilled parents.   Get the show notes, transcription and resources mentioned at http://thefamilyrecoverysolution.com/   Highlights: 02:21 Brook Receives His Call of Service 06:33 Being a Parent of a Child Who’s Acting Out   18:00 Being A Parent of a Withdrawn Child 22:38 How Parents Can Talk to Your Child 29:25 The Larger Picture of Human Suffering 36:15 Effective Family Time 39:48 A Resource for Parents 46:36 Take Care of Yourself