Teach Me How To Adult

How to Get Over a Breakup: The Mistakes Everyone Makes, And Why You Can’t Let Go Of Your Ex, with Amy Chan

Breaking up is hard to do… we’ve watched hundreds of movies and listened to thousands of songs about the universal experience of heartbreak — yet no one ever really teaches us how to navigate breakups, let go of love, and move on in a healthy way. So today, we called in the breakup pro: I’m joined by relationship expert, author, and founder of Renew Breakup Bootcamp, Amy Chan, to cover the psychology of breakups, why we stay in the wrong relationships, and how to actually heal after heartbreak without losing yourself in the process. Amy offers a scientific approach to healing the heart, revealing what actually happens in your brain during a breakup, and why heartbreak and situationships can take on an addictive quality. Amy has been a trusted voice in modern relationships for almost two decades. She’s the author of UNSINGLE: How to Date Smarter and Create Love that Lasts (which comes out this April 28th!) and her popular first book, Breakup Bootcamp: The Science of Rewiring Your Heart, was featured in The New York Times. She’s the founder Renew Breakup Bootcamp, the world's first heartbreak retreat, and she’s on faculty at Esalen and The Omega Institute. Whether you’re in the “should I stay or should I go” phase, currently going through a fresh breakup, or ready to move on from an ex, this conversation will give you the clarity, actionable tools, and perspective you need to come out stronger on the other side. Tune in to hear more about: How to know when it’s time to break up (even when nothing is “wrong”) The 4 key pillars of a healthy relationship to assess compatibility Why we stay in unfulfilling or dead-end relationships The psychology of heartbreak and emotional withdrawal Is it easier to initiate the breakup or be broken up with? The biggest breakup mistakes Why you need to stop creeping your ex on social media Why breakups and situationships can feel addictive and how to stop toxic patterns Why we romanticize our exes (the rose-coloured glasses effect) Can you stay friends with an ex? The rules around post-breakup contact How to set boundaries that support healing and closure This is part one of a two-part series with Amy Chan! If you’re ready to start dating again, don’t miss next week’s episode on how to date smarter and build healthier, lasting relationships. Follow Amy on Instagram and her website.  You can order her new book, Unsingle, here. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

If You’re Burnt Out Or Hate Your Job, This Is For You: The “Achievement Lie” That’s Ruining Your Career, with Top Career Coach Megan Hellerer

Feeling stuck in your career, burnt out, or questioning if it’s time to quit? This episode is for anyone navigating a career pivot or craving more purpose and fulfillment in their work We’re joined by career coach, author, and former Google executive Megan Hellerer to unpack how to find an aligned career and make confident decisions about your next chapter. We explore the truth behind the Achievement Lie, and why so many millennials feel anxious, lost, and burned out despite being successful. You’ll learn the difference between your “fear self” and your “true self,” why logic alone won’t lead you to the right decisions, and how to start making decisions based on what actually feels aligned. After doing everything “right” — graduating from Stanford, landing a high-powered role at Google — Megan found herself deeply unfulfilled and ultimately quit away with no plan. She went on to develop her now widely recognized framework, Directional Living®, and wrote a popular book with the same name, helping ambitious but disconnected high-achievers (like Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez!) rebuild careers that actually feel good. Tune in for more on: The “Achievement Lie” and how it keeps you stuck How to know when it’s time to quit your job (vs. making changes to stick it out) The difference between burnout from overwork vs burnout from misalignment How to tap into your intuition and inner navigation system The difference between your fear self vs true self in decision-making Practical exercises to uncover what actually lights you up (even if you feel lost) Why your curiosity and joy are so helpful How to overcome fear, uncertainty, and decision paralysis The 4 decision-making “omens” to avoid Why there’s no single “right” career path — only what’s right for you right now   For advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

ICYMI: The Psychology Of Getting Organized, And The Link Between Anxiety And Organization, with Megan Golightly

Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed.  I'm moving this week, and in preparation, I've been listening back to our episode on organization so I can put systems in place to (finally!) start my new home with an organized framework.  For anyone itching to spring clean or tackle that "problem area" of your home, we’re throwing it back to the top questions to ask during your decluttering journey, neuroscience hacks to make organization a habit, and the psychology behind how you approach your belongings, with Megan Golightly.  Megan is a professional home organizer and founder of Simplified, which helps people organize, pack and unpack their homes. Megan blends her degree in psychology and passion for neuroscience research with practical organization strategies.  Listen to our full episode with Megan Golightly here. Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes. Follow Megan: go-simplified.com @gosimplified/ Organization Guides: ​​go-simplified.com/guides Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

This Quality Is The #1 Predictor of Success (And It's Not Talent Or IQ) | The Quickie

What if the biggest predictor of success isn’t talent... but grit? According to psychologist Angela Duckworth, grit is: Passion + perseverance for long-term goals. It’s the ability to stay committed, even when things feel hard or uncertain. As Winston Churchill said: “Success is stumbling from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm.” In today's quickie, we’re breaking down the psychology of grit, and why your ability to stay consistent matters more than IQ, natural ability, or connections. If you’ve ever felt behind, not “naturally gifted,” or unsure of your potential... this episode will reframe everything. Tune in to hear more about: Why grit is the #1 predictor of success Angela Duckworth's groundbreaking studies on success How to stop disqualifying yourself from your potential The link between grit, resilience, and mental toughness Why passion matters (and burnout happens without it) When to quit vs stick it out How to build grit in your own life The connection between grit and happiness If you want to measure your grit, you can take the official Grit Scale by Angela Duckworth: 👉 The Grit Scale Quiz ✨ I'm officially on Substack!!! It would mean the world if you could support my writing by subscribing to my Substack here! For advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

ICYMI: The Invisible Way ADHD Shows Up In Women, And What Happens In ADHD Brains, with Shanna Pearson (Founder Of The World’s #1 ADHD Coaching Company)

Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from past episodes that you might have missed.  ADHD in adults is often missed or misdiagnosed... especially in women. We're throwing it back to this insightful info from ADHD coach Shanna Pearson, on the science and brain chemistry behind ADHD, the three types of ADHD and how symptoms differ drastically across gender, and why so many women are diagnosed with anxiety before discovering they have ADHD. Shanna Pearson is the founder of the world’s largest one-on-one ADHD coaching company, working with thousands of adults with ADHD every year, and the bestselling author of Invisible ADHD. Follow Shannon and check out her book: https://www.adhdcoaching.com/  https://www.invisibleadhd.com/  Listen to our full episode here. Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes. For advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube