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Can Kink Improve Your Relationship? | Real Talk with Amanda Dames

What if exploring kink could actually improve your relationship? In this eye-opening conversation, Dr. Diane Mueller and Amanda Dames unpack the surprising ways that kink can deepen emotional connection, enhance communication, and build stronger trust between partners. Whether you're completely new to kink or simply curious about how it fits into a long-term relationship, this video offers valuable insights from the powerful role of boundaries and consent to practical tips for introducing kink in a safe, respectful way. You’ll also discover how embracing your authentic desires can spark more passion, satisfaction, and a deeper sense of intimacy. It’s a must-watch for anyone ready to rethink what a healthy, adventurous love life can truly look like. About the Guest: Amanda Dames -Kink Consultant & Relationship Coach Known as The Kink Consultant, she offers guidance rooted in her personal journey of embracing sexuality and self-acceptance. By exploring the origins of her own kinks and core desires, she developed a transformative approach that now helps individuals and couples connect with their authentic erotic selves. A Certified Somatica® Sex and Relationship Coach and Certified Sexologist, she supports clients in cultivating holistic, shame-free relationships with intimacy. Her consulting method is uniquely tailored—rejecting one-size-fits-all solutions in favor of personalized, consent-driven exploration. Through compassionate, judgment-free coaching, she empowers others to discover their own paths to fulfillment in love, intimacy, and kink. Get Amanda's Goodies: Speaking your desires with confidence (a worksheet to help couples introduce kink and explore their fantasies together) can be found at https://www.amandadames.com/ Our Advocacy: Our advocacy is centered around providing a supportive space for women to reclaim sexual vitality and joy for good. Help us achieve this by subscribing to our podcast and sharing us with your friends and family. 💖 Access Lab Testing: https://platinumself.circle.so/c/community More Libido Lounge ✨ Website: https://mylibidodoc.com/ ✨ YouTube: https://youtube.com/@mylibidodoc ✨ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mylibidodoc/ ✨ Join the Libido Club: https://mylibidodoc.com/Club/ ✨ Freebies for all things libido: https://mylibidodoc.com/freebies/ ✨ Take Our Libido Quiz! https://mylibidodoc.com/libido-quiz/ ✨ Orgasm Perception Quiz: https://mylibidodoc.com/orgasmic-perception-questionnaire/ ✨ Video E-book – Learn How to Want It Again: https://mylibidodoc.com/libido-video-ebook/ ✨ Free E-book – Revive Your Love Life: https://mylibidodoc.com/revive-your-love-life/ ✨ Understanding Orgasms (Step-by-Step Guide): https://mylibidodoc.com/step-by-step-guide-to-orgasm/ ✨ Lube Guide: https://mylibidodoc.com/lube-guide/ ✨ Sex Type / Libido Code: http://libidocode.com/ Timestamps: (0:00) Understanding and communicating about kink in relationships (1:14) Sponsor: My Libido Doc (1:57) Introduction of Amanda Dames and defining kink and fetishes (4:27) The emotional and psychological aspects of kink (8:03) Normalizing kink and exploring new sexual interests (12:30) Stigma, media influence and starting conversations about kink (14:33) Sponsor message (15:26) Discussing sex with vulnerability and hiring a coach for nuanced resistance (18:52) Fantasy vs reality in kink and practical steps for planning fantasies (21:54) The importance of post-experience care and general misconceptions about kink (27:12) Amanda's parting advice and closing remarks

What's REALLY Killing Intimacy in Our Relationships Today? with Laura How

In today's society, we often hear that intimacy is dying in relationships, but what's really behind this decline? Is it the rise of social media, the increase in screen time, or something much deeper? In this video, we'll explore the often-overlooked reasons why intimacy is fading in modern relationships and what we can do to revive it. From communication breakdowns to unrealistic expectations, we'll dive into the real factors eroding intimacy and provide practical tips on how to strengthen your connection with your partner. If you're ready to reignite the spark in your relationship, watch until the end to discover the surprising truth about what's really undermining intimacy. (0:00) The foundations of healthy societies and our role as sexual beings (1:05) Sponsor: My Libido Doc (1:41) Relationship insights with Laura Howe (2:42) Lifelong marriage happiness strategies (6:12) Understanding long-term love and success (10:12) Visualizing relationship dynamics with a pie chart (12:22) Sponsor Message: Women's orgasm statistics (13:20) Prioritizing for a fulfilling relationship (18:47) Reigniting your sex life and building intimacy (24:05) Balancing comfort and motivation in relationships (26:23) Connecting with Laura Howe

Girlfriend Edition #4: Is JEALOUSY Ruining Your Relationship?

Is jealousy ruining your relationship? In this Girlfriend edition of Libido Lounge, you will learn how to identify the signs of jealousy and how to overcome it to build a stronger and healthier partnership. We'll dive into the effects of jealousy on relationships, why people get jealous, and most importantly, how to stop jealousy from destroying your love life. From communication and trust to insecurity and possessiveness, we'll cover it all. If you're tired of feeling trapped in a cycle of jealousy and want to create a more loving and secure connection with your partner, then this video is for you. (0:00) Introduction and themes: Jealousy and competition in relationships (2:14) Dr. Diane's personal experience with jealousy (6:02) The role of communication and emotions in managing jealousy (13:02) Ownership, personal responsibility, and choice in jealousy (21:42) Compersion, pleasure, and the role of oxytocin (28:23) Using orgasms to balance emotions and libido (31:17) Light and darkness: Maintaining libido through relationship stages (35:23) Self-pleasure, redefining sex, and maintaining sexual energy (43:15) Movement, sensual dance, and creative energy for libido

Girlfriend Edition #3: Is AWKWARD SEX Ruining Your Relationship?

Is your intimate life filled with awkward moments that are leaving you and your partner feeling frustrated and disconnected? In this Girlfriend Edition of the Libido Lounge, Dr. Diane and her friends Ruby, Cosmos, and Yonisun talk about their moments of awkward bedroom moments and how to make them more normal and hot! From uncomfortable conversations to awkward positions, we're covering it all. Whether you're in a new relationship or have been with your partner for years, this video is for anyone who wants to improve their intimacy and strengthen their bond. So if you're ready to stop letting awkward moments hold you back and start building a more fulfilling relationship, then keep watching! (0:00) Awkward sex experiences and sex club mishap (1:42) Introduction by Dr. Diane Mueller (2:12) Importance of subscribing and introducing the girlfriends (3:37) First awkward sex story and farting during sex (5:35) Misconceptions and normalizing awkward sexual experiences (10:34) Attraction, chemistry disconnect, and body intelligence (15:05) Discussing bad sex experiences and the importance of the sensual journey (19:31) Crying after orgasms and friends becoming sexual partners (22:05) Making awkwardness okay in relationships (25:13) Addressing perfectionism in sexual performance and gender differences (28:06) The dynamics of one-night stands and orgasms (31:13) The role of novelty and personal sexual evolution (32:59) Sexual fantasies, changes during pregnancy, and audience engagement (35:33) Sponsor: hotterlife.com and episode wrap-up

What's Your Attachment Style Doing To Your Relationships? With Bev Mitelman, M.A.

Are you tired of experiencing the same patterns of heartbreak, anxiety, or emotional unavailability in your relationships? It may be time to explore your attachment style. In this video, we'll dive into the three main attachment styles - anxious, avoidant, and secure - and how they impact your relationships. Learn how your attachment style may be driving your relationships and what you can do to break free from unhealthy patterns. Whether you're single, in a relationship, or just curious about yourself, this video will provide you with valuable insights to improve your connections with others. About the Guest: Bev Mitelman, M.A. - Founder of Securely Loved Expertise: Working primarily with women in their peri-menopause and post- menopausal years focused on romantic relationships and sexuality, rebuilding healthy self-esteem and respectful parenting and family dynamics. Bev offers individual and couples sessions To work with Bev and to take her free attachment theory quiz mentioned in the show go to https://securelyloved.com/ Our Advocacy: Our advocacy is centered around providing a supportive space for women to reclaim sexual vitality and joy for good. Help us achieve this by subscribing to our podcast and sharing us with your friends and family. 💖 Join our Next Libido Masterclass: https://mylibidodoc.com/masterclass 💖 Access Lab Testing: https://platinumself.circle.so/c/community More Libido Lounge ✨ Website: https://mylibidodoc.com/ ✨ YouTube: https://youtube.com/@mylibidodoc ✨ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mylibidodoc/ ✨ Join the Libido Club: https://mylibidodoc.com/Club/ ✨ Health Store: https://store.mylibidodoc.com/ ✨ Take Our Libido Quiz! https://t.ly/quoNU Timestamps: (0:00) Introduction to attachment theory and styles (1:37) Sponsor: My Libido Doc (2:13) Introduction of Bev Mitelman and Overview of Securely Loved (3:37) Importance of attachment theory in relationships (6:46) Characteristics of different attachment styles and healing relationships (14:49) Real-life example of attachment styles in action (16:42) Sponsor: Hot and Modern Monogamy (17:18) Detailed behaviors of attachment styles and forming a more secure attachment (27:51) Announcing exclusive part two content (31:23) Wrapping up and information about Bev Mitelman's services (33:14) Closing remarks and podcast outro