Codependency Alchemy: The Podcast

What to do when your partner says something really hurtful

What do you do when your partner says something in a fight that really hurts? In this episode, I respond to a Codependency Alchemy member who felt deeply disrespected during an argument with their partner and doesn’t know what to do next. They didn’t want to shut down, fight back, or threaten the relationship… but they also knew they deserved more care and respect.We talk about:* How to respond when you feel disrespected or hurt* Why walking away isn’t weak— it’s a boundary* When you're ready for repair, and how to know* Questions to ask when you're ready to reconnect* How to avoid falling back into old, reactive patternsThis is a conversation about repair, nervous system regulation, and reclaiming your voice, even when the moment feels messy.If this episode resonated, take a second to like this post, rate, review, or share it with someone who might need it too. It really helps more people find this work.🌟 Special Podcast Listener Offer: Join the Codependency Alchemy Membership today and get 40% off!→ Click here to claim your discount and join now!💬 Get Community Support: Join our vibrant, supportive chat community and get real-time guidance on your healing journey. → Join the chat✨ Free Shadow Work & Inner Child Guide: Ready to deepen your healing with a step-by-step guide?→ Download my FREE guide🎥 Watch 9+ Powerful Masterclasses: Access practical tools, guided exercises, and transformative teachings to help you heal codependency and build healthier relationships. → Exclusive Masterclass Library✍🏾 From My Journal: Intimate insights and reflections directly from my personal healing journey.→ Read my latest journal entries💎 Explore "The Gems": Browse curated free resources filled with practical wisdom and actionable insights designed to support your growth and healing. → Get your free resources here This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

Am I still loved if I say no?

Do you feel guilty or afraid to say no—even when your body says you’re at capacity? In this episode I guide Hannah through healing the fear that setting boundaries might lead to rejection or losing the connections and community she’s built and grown for herself. Together we explore how people-pleasing patterns stem from the mother wound, and how to reconnect with the inner child who learned it was safer to be needed than to be authentic.A powerful episode for anyone who wants to stop spiraling after saying no and start honoring their truth with compassion.This episode is for you if:* You overthink how others might respond when you set a boundary* You’ve ever felt like you had to be “useful” or “helpful” to be loved* You find yourself saying yes when your body’s screaming no* You’re ready to stop spiraling in shame after choosing yourself🌟 Special Podcast Listener Offer: Join the Codependency Alchemy Membership today and get 40% off!→ Click here to claim your discount and join now!💬 Get Community Support: Join our vibrant, supportive chat community and get real-time guidance on your healing journey. → Join the chat✨ Free Shadow Work & Inner Child Guide: Ready to deepen your healing with a step-by-step guide?→ Download my FREE guide🎥 Watch 9+ Powerful Masterclasses: Access practical tools, guided exercises, and transformative teachings to help you heal codependency and build healthier relationships. → Exclusive Masterclass Library✍🏾 From My Journal: Intimate insights and reflections directly from my personal healing journey.→ Read my latest journal entries💎 Explore "The Gems": Browse curated free resources filled with practical wisdom and actionable insights designed to support your growth and healing. → Get your free resources here This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

3 questions to unblock the part of you that’s afraid to let go

Ever feel like no matter how much healing work you do, something still keeps you stuck? In this episode, we’re exploring the hidden blocks that sabotage your growth, steal your peace, and keep you spinning in old patterns—even when you’re trying so hard to move forward. I’ll walk you through 3 powerful questions that will help you identify what’s really in the way, where it came from, and how to gently start shifting it.This episode is for you if:You feel stuck or blocked despite all the inner work you’ve doneYou struggle to let go of control, even when it’s safe to do soYou carry guilt when things feel easeful or goodYou’re ready to reconnect with the part of you that knows how to flow**Want to join our next Podcast Live event? Make sure you become a free subscriber on our Codependency Alchemy Substack here.🌟 Special Podcast Listener Offer: Join the Codependency Alchemy Membership today and get 40% off!→ Click here to claim your discount and join now!💬 Get Community Support: Join our vibrant, supportive chat community and get real-time guidance on your healing journey. → Join the chat✨ Free Shadow Work & Inner Child Guide: Ready to deepen your healing with a step-by-step guide?→ Download my FREE guide 🎥 Watch 9+ Powerful Masterclasses: Access practical tools, guided exercises, and transformative teachings to help you heal codependency and build healthier relationships. → Exclusive Masterclass Library✍🏾 From My Journal: Intimate insights and reflections directly from my personal healing journey.→ Read my latest journal entries💎 Explore "The Gems": Browse curated free resources filled with practical wisdom and actionable insights designed to support your growth and healing. → Get your free resources here This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

Afraid of making the wrong choice in love?

Do you ever spiral over whether you’re making the “right” choice in your relationship? In this episode of Codependency Alchemy, I guide Julie—a brave member of our membership community—through a powerful healing session exploring the fear of choosing wrong in love. Together, we unpack the inner conflict between her craving for connection and her fear of repeating painful patterns. Through shadow work and inner child healing, we explore the deeper wounds underneath indecision, and how to start trusting yourself—even when the future feels uncertain.This episode is for you if:You constantly second-guess your relationship decisionsYou struggle to hear your intuition through the noise of fear and traumaYou’re scared to leave… but also scared to stayYou want tools to help you discern truth from self-protection🌟 Special Podcast Listener Offer: Join the Codependency Alchemy Membership today and get 40% off!→ Click here to claim your discount and join now!💬 Get Community Support: Join our vibrant, supportive chat community and get real-time guidance on your healing journey. → Join the chat✨ Free Shadow Work & Inner Child Guide: Ready to deepen your healing with a step-by-step guide?→ Download my FREE guide🎥 Watch 9+ Powerful Masterclasses: Access practical tools, guided exercises, and transformative teachings to help you heal codependency and build healthier relationships. → Exclusive Masterclass Library✍🏾 From My Journal: Intimate insights and reflections directly from my personal healing journey.→ Read my latest journal entries💎 Explore "The Gems": Browse curated free resources filled with practical wisdom and actionable insights designed to support your growth and healing. → Get your free resources hereOther resources noted in this episode:Healing the Mother Wound- 30 day journeyMuscle testing- learn how to trust you inner knowing/compass This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

8 lessons that changed my relationships forever

Are you tired of doing all the work in your relationship—or wondering why healing still feels so triggering, even with a good partner? In this raw and honest episode of Codependency Alchemy, I share the eight biggest lessons I’ve learned in my 30s that completely transformed how I show up in love. From fixating on my partner’s healing journey to weaponizing my love language, to learning how to hold two truths without needing to be “right”—this episode is packed with the hard-earned wisdom I wish I had a decade ago. Whether you’re in a relationship or healing after one, these lessons will meet you exactly where you are.This episode is for you if:* You keep trying to “fix” your partner instead of tending to yourself.* You’re struggling with space, boundaries, or unmet needs.* You want to stop reacting from fear and start responding with clarity.* You’re ready to take accountability without shame.🌟 Special Podcast Listener Offer: Join the Codependency Alchemy Membership today and get 40% off!→ Click here to claim your discount and join now!💬 Get Community Support: Join our vibrant, supportive chat community and get real-time guidance on your healing journey. → Join the chat✨ Free Shadow Work & Inner Child Guide: Ready to deepen your healing with a step-by-step guide?→ Download my FREE guide🎥 Watch 9+ Powerful Masterclasses: Access practical tools, guided exercises, and transformative teachings to help you heal codependency and build healthier relationships. → Exclusive Masterclass Library✍🏾 From My Journal: Intimate insights and reflections directly from my personal healing journey.→ Read my latest journal entries💎 Explore "The Gems": Browse curated free resources filled with practical wisdom and actionable insights designed to support your growth and healing. → Get your free resources hereOther resources noted in this episode:The Breakup That Healed Me EpisodeThe Situationship EpisodeNeeds, Wants, and Desires Episode This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe