Language of Love with Dr. Laura Berman

Sex on the First Date: Bold Move or Big Mistake?

So the date’s going really well. The drinks are flowing, the laughter is effortless, the chemistry? Off the charts. One thing leads to another... and you sleep together. Now you’re lying in bed, wondering: Was that a mistake? Should you have waited? Does having sex so soon make you seem less serious—or just honest about your desires? Can it create real connection, or does it shut the door before anything deeper begins? In this Language of Love Session, I  respond to a heartfelt question from Susie, who finds herself second-guessing her decision to have sex on the first date. I explore the emotional landmines of modern dating—especially in a world of ghosting, dating apps, and conflicting advice. You will learn: Why dating apps have changed the rules—and how to protect your heart How delaying sex can reveal true intentions (without playing games) What oxytocin does to your brain (and why it matters after sex) The truth about “earning” intimacy—and how it builds mutual respect Why your sexuality is a gift, and how to share it with intention When first-date sex does work—and what to watch for if it doesn’t If you’ve ever second-guessed sleeping with someone too soon—or felt like you gave too much too fast—this one’s for you. And if someone disappears after sex, I explain why that says everything about them, not you. Have your own story to share or a question for Dr. Berman? Email languageoflovepod@gmail.com. You might hear it featured in a future session. For more on navigating intimacy and dating with confidence, visit my website or check out my newest book, Sex Magic. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

5 Things High Desire Women Secretly Wish Their Partners Knew

We hear so much about low libido, but what about the women who feel alive with desire, who crave connection and intimacy, and don’t always know where to put all that energy? If that’s you, I see you. If you love a woman like that, listen closely. In this Language of Love Bite, I dive into what high desire women secretly wish their partners knew. You’re not too much. You’re not too needy. Your sensuality is sacred and it deserves to be honored, not dimmed. I share five powerful truths that can shift how we understand desire, along with a beautiful, simple 5-minute eye-gazing ritual to help you reconnect without pressure, agenda, or words. Just presence. Just being seen. I talk about: Why desire isn’t just physical: it’s energetic and emotional How initiating sex is often a bid for closeness, not control The heartbreak of dimming yourself to make others comfortable Why presence matters more than performance in bed How your desire, fully expressed, becomes a gift to the relationship   Whether you’re a high-desire woman or you love one, this episode is here to remind you: Your sensual energy isn’t something to fix. It’s a power to honor. If you’re craving tools that blend intimacy, healing, and pleasure, grab Sex Magic, because true connection begins when we stop performing and start seeing each other, soul to soul. And don’t forget to visit my website to explore 7 Days to Better Sex, a transformational program designed to put you in the driver’s seat of your sex life, actively creating the passion you crave and deserve. Because this isn’t about fixing yourself… it’s about reclaiming your power. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dying to Be Me: Love and Truth from the Other Side with Anita Moorjani

Have you ever lost someone you love and found yourself wondering… where did they go? Are they still near? Can they feel me? In this episode of Language of Love Conversations, I’m joined by Anita Moorjani. A bestselling author and globally respected speaker, Anita has been a guiding light for me and for many who have walked through grief. When I lost my mother 12 years ago, her book Dying to Be Me helped me feel less alone and more connected to something beyond this life. Anita’s story is nothing short of miraculous. After a four-year battle with cancer, her body shut down completely. Doctors declared she wouldn’t make it. But during a 30-hour near-death experience, Anita crossed over into what she describes as the most loving, peaceful, and joy-filled space imaginable. There was no pain. No fear. Just pure freedom. And yet, she could still feel her family’s sorrow. She wanted so badly to comfort them, to let them know she was okay. She was in a much better place now, but had no body, no words. What she experienced during that time challenged everything she’d ever believed. In this episode, Anita opens up about what she saw on the other side and how even the soul of her estranged father met her in love. What she learned changed her life. It just might change yours, too. We talk about: Anita’s experience with cancer, death, and healing What she learned about love, forgiveness, and who we really are How your loved ones keep supporting you after they’re gone Why you don’t have to keep grieving to show your love, and how healing helps you and them How her father’s spirit helped her live without fear Ways you can raise your energy to connect with those who have passed What spirit looks like, if it has a body, and if it changes over time How her healing affected the doctors and medical staff Advice for those who lost a partner and wonder if it’s okay to love again What instant manifestation looks like after death Why some disturbing dreams aren’t messages from loved ones, and how real messages come through Anita’s thoughts on reincarnation and soul plans and the 360-degree tapestry of life The three main truths she learned on the other side Why life can feel like a video game with more going on behind the scenes If Anita’s story speaks to you, you can read her  book Dying to Be Me. or visit her website.  You can also find her on LinkedIn and YouTube. There’s a Sedona retreat coming soon for those interested. If you’re grieving, you don’t have to go through it alone. Check out the Good Grief Course on my website for support and guidance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Same-Sex Fantasies: What Do They Mean?

What do same-sex fantasies really mean? You’re in a loving, heterosexual relationship. You feel close to your partner—emotionally and physically. And yet… your imagination is taking you somewhere unexpected. Somewhere that involves desire, intimacy, and sex—with the same gender. In this episode of Language of Love Session, we dive into this very experience through Chelsea’s story. She’s been with her male partner for years. Their bond is strong. The love is real. But lately, her mind has been drifting. Recurring sexual fantasies about women have started popping up—quietly, insistently, and powerfully. She hasn’t acted on them. She doesn’t want to end her relationship. But she can’t help but wonder: “Does this mean I’m gay or bi? Or are same-sex fantasies just… fantasies?” This session unpacks what fantasies are really about—why they don’t always match our lived desires, and how you can explore them without fear or shame. You don’t need a label to ask the question. You’re allowed to be curious. If you’ve ever wondered what your fantasies might mean—or if they mean anything at all—this one’s for you. We explore: Why same-sex fantasies are far more common than you think (especially for women) What the Kinsey Scale can teach you about the fluidity of sexual desire How to separate fantasy from identity—and why they don’t always need to match Why you don’t have to act on a fantasy for it to be meaningful, fun, or real The difference between curiosity, confusion, and true longing And if you’re exploring new territory in your mind or your relationship, I’d love to hear from you. Email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com—your story could help someone else feel more seen.  Visit my website or dive into my latest book, Sex Magic, for a transformative look at pleasure and self-discovery. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How Your Attachment Style Shapes Your Sex Life

You know that weird knot in your stomach when your partner doesn’t text back? Or that moment when, after an argument, you just totally shut down? What if I told you those little patterns don’t just mess with your relationship—they sneak into your sex life too? In this Language of Love Bite, we’re getting real about something we all bring to the bedroom but almost never talk about: your attachment style. I’m talking about how the way you love is literally the way you touch. Whether you’re anxious, avoidant, secure, or somewhere in between, those patterns show up in bed—and not always in ways you expect. This isn’t about slapping a label on you. It’s about freeing you. Because once you get what’s really going on, you can change the script—and finally experience the kind of intimacy your body and heart have been starving for. Here’s what  uncover together: Why anxious attachment can make sex feel like a test you’re scared to fail—and why rejection hits like a gut punch. Why avoidant attachment might have you pulling away from closeness, even when you’re totally turned on. How disorganized attachment turns desire into a confusing, scary mix—often tied to old wounds you didn’t even realize were still there. What secure attachment really feels like—being safe, present, and emotionally connected during sex. And the one powerful question that reveals your true sexual attachment needs—and opens the door to healing Whether you're over-giving in bed, emotionally checking out, or somewhere in the middle, this episode offers a mirror—and a map. Your patterns aren’t permanent. With awareness, your attachment style can evolve. And sex? It can become a space of deep healing, not just habit. Want to go deeper? Grab my book Sex Magic for body-based tools that rebuild trust, safety, and sacred connection. Feeling seen by this episode? Share your story: Email languageoflovepod@gmail.com Because how you love… is how you touch. And you deserve to feel safe enough to surrender. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices