The Intimacy Inquiry

#118 Cidney Green: Unfiltered, non-monogamous, empowered, and sexually liberated

Cidney Green on Sexual Liberation, Non‑Monogamy, and PowerOn Intimacy Inquiry, the host speaks with Cidney Green, creator of viral Atlanta alt orgy events, the Pussy Over Pain Movement, and author of the upcoming book All Three In Me.Green describes her private self as playful and affection-seeking, contrasts her teenage prudishness and dependence on male validation with an early fascination with sex, and discusses porn as entertainment rather than education. She argues society’s comfort with violence but discomfort with sex stems largely from religion and that sexual shame suppresses personal power, especially for women.Green explains her path into polyamory via a poly Facebook group and an open relationship, framing monogamy as illogical and historically tied to property and womb control. She shares why she wrote the book, reactions to her sex-party notoriety, her views on nudity, self-care practices, sex magic/manifestation, fantasies she hasn’t fulfilled, and her long-term desire for a compound with two to three husbands.00:00 Meet Cidney Green00:41 Who Is Cidney Really01:45 Teen Years And Validation03:58 Early Sexual Awakening06:31 Why Violence Wins11:43 Porn As Entertainment17:18 Sexual Shame And Power20:19 Defining Sexual Freedom22:41 Discovering Non Monogamy28:13 Monogamy And Womb Control31:35 Writing All Three In Me35:20 Backlash And Going Viral40:18 Book Cover Meanings42:11 Nudism And Authority44:41 Body Shame Learned Early46:33 Europe vs UK Nudity48:29 Strip Clubs and Odd Laws51:09 Private Sex Shops Era51:56 Evolving Sexual Needs53:39 Sex Magic Manifesting58:02 Porn Preferences Unfiltered01:00:11 Fantasies Threesomes and Anal 01:04:56 Pleasure Patriarchy and FGM01:09:04 Religion Rape Culture and Orgasm Gap01:14:55 Self Care and Saying Yes01:17:31 Hollywood Casting and Poly Love01:20:37 Wrap Up and Farewellhttps://www.all3inme.com/https://x.com/thecidneyghttps://www.youtube.com/@thecidneyghttps://www.instagram.com/cidney_green?igsh=MTRlczF5eGpvOHcxaA==https://www.tiktok.com/@cidneygreen?_r=1&_t=ZP-94wGESSy5D4

#117 Radical Honesty, Modern Intimacy, and Sex Work

Radical Honesty, Modern Intimacy, and Sex Work: Elizabeth Romanova on Stigma, Boundaries, and IndependenceLondon-based escort and adult content creator Elizabeth Romanova, a single mother to a 15-year-old, discusses her decade-plus in sex work, her choice of “radical honesty” at home, and how she navigates stigma and judgment by avoiding online comments. She describes exploring different parts of the industry (escorting, porn, webcamming, OnlyFans) and valuing creator control, travel, and flexible work. Romano explains client motivations—from married men seeking intimacy to lonely single men wanting companionship—and how she sets boundaries, including refusing condomless sex and blocking unsafe requests. She reflects on trust, spotting lies, and the difficulty couples have discussing desires, which she links to cheating. She outlines self-care, peer support among sex workers, the business side (marketing, tax, accountants), legal caution when touring, and her focus on supporting her daughter toward university while feeling happy and independent.00:00 Meet Elizabeth Romanova01:38 Why She Stays02:14 Exploring Sex Work03:49 OnlyFans Control04:53 Porn Industry Shift06:06 Honesty With Daughter07:59 Handling Stigma Online10:51 Married Clients Needs14:13 Emotional Boundaries16:24 Dating As Sex Worker19:06 Safety And Hard Limits22:28 Trust And Intimacy Talk27:13 Dating Men vs Women27:45 Redefining Masculinity28:58 Equality and Independence30:42 Intimacy Beyond Sex32:18 Self Care Routines33:23 Industry Friendships35:34 Business Side of Sex Work38:23 Setting Boundaries41:00 Staying Legal on Tour42:05 Future Plans and Parenting45:31 AI and Career Security46:14 Happy Ending and Farewellhttps://www.vivastreet.co.uk/escort/gbhttps://www.adultwork.com/dlgExtRatings.asp?U=4386722

#116 From Sexual Shame to Sovereignty with Jocelyn Silva

From Sexual Shame to Sovereignty: Pleasure, Communication, and Unlearning Conditioning with Jocelyn SilvaEmpowerment coach and sex educator Jocelyn Silva shares how growing up Catholic in the San Fernando Valley shaped intense shame-based messages about sex, and how a positive first sexual experience and feminist activism led her to leave the church and become a sex educator with Coochie La, teaching comprehensive sex ed in low-income communities. She and the host discuss how shame and political forces restrict bodily sovereignty, why online information and porn can mislead young people, and how reframing “sex” as “pleasure” reduces performance pressure. Silva explains signs of performative sex, how stress and lack of emotional safety affect desire, and how clients can shift limiting beliefs using a thoughts-feelings-actions framework. She emphasizes scripts and mediated conversations to help couples speak desires, build distress tolerance, and address compatibility, and she outlines hopes to keep traveling, create retreats, write a book, and expand her community.00:00 Meet Jocelyn Silva00:43 Catholic Shame Messages03:10 Is Sex Education Improving04:56 Power Shame Control07:13 Porn Information Overload11:48 From Repression To Educator16:12 Redefining Sex As Pleasure19:44 Performative Sex Signs22:44 Feeling Broken And Healing26:49 Sex Differences Myth27:52 Social Conditioning Clash29:12 Same Gender Dynamics31:33 Breaking Cultural Scripts33:18 Rewiring Beliefs CBT37:06 Aging Bodies New Sex38:59 Speak Your Desires41:13 Sharing Kinks Safely43:38 Vulnerability Money Sex44:59 Place Shapes Intimacy47:50 Disconnecting Tech Era50:04 Coach Boundaries Self Care52:17 Future Vision Wraphttps://www.jocelynsilva.com/https://www.instagram.com/iamjocelynsilva/https://substack.com/@therelentlesslover

#115 Healing Trauma, Reclaiming Self-Trust, and Building Real Connection with Tori Jenae

Healing Trauma, Reclaiming Self-Trust, and Building Real Connection with Tori JenaeTrauma-informed relationship and confidence coach Tori Jenae shares how complex childhood trauma shaped her nervous system and dating patterns, including perfectionism, control, low-grade anxiety, and avoidant “push-pull” intimacy. She explains how early attachments create “love maps,” why trauma is stored in the body, and critiques talk therapy that stops at the mind, emphasizing somatic work and safety in relationship as key to healing. Tori recounts leaving home at 17, breaking a family lineage of addiction, and finding safety with her ex-husband, with whom she was married for 20 years. The conversation also covers antidepressants and holistic health factors, the loneliness epidemic and monetized intimacy, what healthy intimacy feels like, ways couples rebuild connection, and her “Reclamation Method” and ABCs of healing: awareness, beliefs, and clearing.00:00 Meet Tori Jenae00:48 Early Trauma Signs02:57 Love Maps and Attachment05:07 Breaking Family Cycles09:32 Resilience and Purpose12:40 Learning to Trust16:56 Healing Through the Body21:43 Holistic Mental Health28:38 Loneliness and Lost Intimacy32:14 Loneliness Needs People32:31 Dating Apps Reality Check34:08 What Matters Most35:04 Stop Living Through Phones37:33 Success Yet Unworthy40:33 Happiness Inside You43:06 Reclamation Method Basics45:34 ABCs of Healing51:08 Therapist Boundaries54:12 Healthy Love Today55:41 Rekindling Long Term Intimacy01:02:16 Never Stop Dating01:03:17 Planning the Future01:04:44 Closing Thankshttps://www.torijenae.com/opt-in-d7dec567-5a03-4245-b2fa-929599de006ahttps://www.torijenae.com/https://www.instagram.com/tori.jenae/https://www.linkedin.com/in/tori-jenae-ma-psych-a6051766/

Elana Auerbach on The Sure Thing: A Weekly Pleasure Practice for Lasting Intimacy

Elana Auerbach on The Sure Thing: A Weekly Pleasure Practice for Lasting IntimacyElana Auerbach, a sensuality guide and educator, discusses her book and “The Sure Thing” love experiment: a simple weekly pleasure practice designed to help couples replace sex struggles and performance pressure with reliable intimacy, desire, and joy.She shares her personal history of dissociation, sexual awakening, and her purpose as a “priestess of love and connection,” explaining how a 12-year desire mismatch with her spouse shifted after they committed in December 2020 to a weekly Saturday practice focused on connection rather than goals or orgasm. The conversation covers redefining sex beyond penetrative acts, addressing shame as “the elephant in the bedroom,” building the ability to ask for what you want, and how regular pleasure practices can improve relationships, family life, and community well-being. She also touches on consent, solo practice, non-monogamy as a choice, and future plans to expand the book’s reach and create audio guided visualizations.00:00 Meet Elana Auerbach00:57 Book Arrival Surprise03:05 Teen Years Awakening06:54 Calling and Priestess Path07:56 Creating Weekly Practice14:30 Why It Works19:50 Redefining Sex and Pleasure26:46 Practical How To Start29:00 Preparing and Rituals32:28 Requests and Knowing Wants34:09 Inviting Partner In34:39 Inviting Your Partner35:54 Solo Pleasure Practice36:46 Shame In The Bedroom38:37 Naming And Healing Shame42:35 When Desire Changes46:46 Ask For What You Want50:00 Pleasure Changes Everything54:38 Designing Your Sure Thing59:17 Monogamy Or Choice01:01:21 Whats Next And ClosingA special gift for listeners to the podcast:A guided journey to deepen with your wild, sensual self and connect with your passion and desire!https://guide.surethingexperiment.com/wild-sensual-selfWebsite: https://surethingexperiment.com/FB: facebook.com/ElanaAuerbachAuthorIG: https://www.instagram.com/elana.auerbach/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/elana-auerbach-387875b3/