The Intimacy Inquiry

Embodying Pleasure: Patty Alfonso on Erotic Innocence, Nervous System Healing, and Expanding Intimacy

Embodying Pleasure: Patty Alfonso on Erotic Innocence, Nervous System Healing, and Expanding IntimacyPatty Alfonso, an “erotic priestess” and creator of the Embody Her mentorship, explains her trauma-aware, body-based approach to helping women integrate pleasure, power, and truth by reconnecting with the body rather than living solely “from the neck up.” She and the host discuss somatic healing for trauma responses, technology-driven disconnection, and how patriarchy and mixed cultural messages shame women’s sexuality while exploiting it. Patty shares her personal path from a sex-silent upbringing to feminine embodiment through S Factor movement, and reframes erotic energy as creative life force connected to nature and “womb wisdom.” They explore expanding the definition of sex beyond penetration, introduce erotic blueprints as a framework for pleasure, and emphasize communication, community support, and discernment in relationships, including ethical polyamory. Patty offers resources at pattyalfonso.com/innocence.00:00 Meet Patty Alfonso00:43 What Is An Erotic Priestess02:08 Living In Your Head05:44 Trauma Lives In The Body08:37 Her Path To Sensual Movement12:12 Patriarchy And Pleasure21:06 Grounding Orgasmic Energy24:47 Erotic Living Everyday32:39 Redefining Sex As Pleasure34:24 Erotic Blueprints Explained37:45 Shame And Self Exploration41:18 Can Women Have It All43:04 Rebuilding Community Support44:47 Feminine Values and Balance46:49 Womb Wisdom Beyond Motherhood49:30 Erotic Innocence Mindset50:04 Monogamy vs Polyamory59:45 Kink and Safe Sex Talks01:04:04 Erotic Energy Fuels Life01:08:24 Sensual Blueprint Senses01:12:08 Discernment in Partnership01:17:58 Future Visions and Pilgrimage01:21:57 Closing and Listener Offerhttps://www.youtube.com/@PattyAlfonsoTVhttps://www.pattyalfonso.com/innocencehttps://www.facebook.com/pattyalfonsohealerhttps://instagram.com/thepattyalfonso

#118 Cidney Green: Unfiltered, non-monogamous, empowered, and sexually liberated

Cidney Green on Sexual Liberation, Non‑Monogamy, and PowerOn Intimacy Inquiry, the host speaks with Cidney Green, creator of viral Atlanta alt orgy events, the Pussy Over Pain Movement, and author of the upcoming book All Three In Me.Green describes her private self as playful and affection-seeking, contrasts her teenage prudishness and dependence on male validation with an early fascination with sex, and discusses porn as entertainment rather than education. She argues society’s comfort with violence but discomfort with sex stems largely from religion and that sexual shame suppresses personal power, especially for women.Green explains her path into polyamory via a poly Facebook group and an open relationship, framing monogamy as illogical and historically tied to property and womb control. She shares why she wrote the book, reactions to her sex-party notoriety, her views on nudity, self-care practices, sex magic/manifestation, fantasies she hasn’t fulfilled, and her long-term desire for a compound with two to three husbands.00:00 Meet Cidney Green00:41 Who Is Cidney Really01:45 Teen Years And Validation03:58 Early Sexual Awakening06:31 Why Violence Wins11:43 Porn As Entertainment17:18 Sexual Shame And Power20:19 Defining Sexual Freedom22:41 Discovering Non Monogamy28:13 Monogamy And Womb Control31:35 Writing All Three In Me35:20 Backlash And Going Viral40:18 Book Cover Meanings42:11 Nudism And Authority44:41 Body Shame Learned Early46:33 Europe vs UK Nudity48:29 Strip Clubs and Odd Laws51:09 Private Sex Shops Era51:56 Evolving Sexual Needs53:39 Sex Magic Manifesting58:02 Porn Preferences Unfiltered01:00:11 Fantasies Threesomes and Anal 01:04:56 Pleasure Patriarchy and FGM01:09:04 Religion Rape Culture and Orgasm Gap01:14:55 Self Care and Saying Yes01:17:31 Hollywood Casting and Poly Love01:20:37 Wrap Up and Farewellhttps://www.all3inme.com/https://x.com/thecidneyghttps://www.youtube.com/@thecidneyghttps://www.instagram.com/cidney_green?igsh=MTRlczF5eGpvOHcxaA==https://www.tiktok.com/@cidneygreen?_r=1&_t=ZP-94wGESSy5D4

#117 Radical Honesty, Modern Intimacy, and Sex Work

Radical Honesty, Modern Intimacy, and Sex Work: Elizabeth Romanova on Stigma, Boundaries, and IndependenceLondon-based escort and adult content creator Elizabeth Romanova, a single mother to a 15-year-old, discusses her decade-plus in sex work, her choice of “radical honesty” at home, and how she navigates stigma and judgment by avoiding online comments. She describes exploring different parts of the industry (escorting, porn, webcamming, OnlyFans) and valuing creator control, travel, and flexible work. Romano explains client motivations—from married men seeking intimacy to lonely single men wanting companionship—and how she sets boundaries, including refusing condomless sex and blocking unsafe requests. She reflects on trust, spotting lies, and the difficulty couples have discussing desires, which she links to cheating. She outlines self-care, peer support among sex workers, the business side (marketing, tax, accountants), legal caution when touring, and her focus on supporting her daughter toward university while feeling happy and independent.00:00 Meet Elizabeth Romanova01:38 Why She Stays02:14 Exploring Sex Work03:49 OnlyFans Control04:53 Porn Industry Shift06:06 Honesty With Daughter07:59 Handling Stigma Online10:51 Married Clients Needs14:13 Emotional Boundaries16:24 Dating As Sex Worker19:06 Safety And Hard Limits22:28 Trust And Intimacy Talk27:13 Dating Men vs Women27:45 Redefining Masculinity28:58 Equality and Independence30:42 Intimacy Beyond Sex32:18 Self Care Routines33:23 Industry Friendships35:34 Business Side of Sex Work38:23 Setting Boundaries41:00 Staying Legal on Tour42:05 Future Plans and Parenting45:31 AI and Career Security46:14 Happy Ending and Farewellhttps://www.vivastreet.co.uk/escort/gbhttps://www.adultwork.com/dlgExtRatings.asp?U=4386722

#116 From Sexual Shame to Sovereignty with Jocelyn Silva

From Sexual Shame to Sovereignty: Pleasure, Communication, and Unlearning Conditioning with Jocelyn SilvaEmpowerment coach and sex educator Jocelyn Silva shares how growing up Catholic in the San Fernando Valley shaped intense shame-based messages about sex, and how a positive first sexual experience and feminist activism led her to leave the church and become a sex educator with Coochie La, teaching comprehensive sex ed in low-income communities. She and the host discuss how shame and political forces restrict bodily sovereignty, why online information and porn can mislead young people, and how reframing “sex” as “pleasure” reduces performance pressure. Silva explains signs of performative sex, how stress and lack of emotional safety affect desire, and how clients can shift limiting beliefs using a thoughts-feelings-actions framework. She emphasizes scripts and mediated conversations to help couples speak desires, build distress tolerance, and address compatibility, and she outlines hopes to keep traveling, create retreats, write a book, and expand her community.00:00 Meet Jocelyn Silva00:43 Catholic Shame Messages03:10 Is Sex Education Improving04:56 Power Shame Control07:13 Porn Information Overload11:48 From Repression To Educator16:12 Redefining Sex As Pleasure19:44 Performative Sex Signs22:44 Feeling Broken And Healing26:49 Sex Differences Myth27:52 Social Conditioning Clash29:12 Same Gender Dynamics31:33 Breaking Cultural Scripts33:18 Rewiring Beliefs CBT37:06 Aging Bodies New Sex38:59 Speak Your Desires41:13 Sharing Kinks Safely43:38 Vulnerability Money Sex44:59 Place Shapes Intimacy47:50 Disconnecting Tech Era50:04 Coach Boundaries Self Care52:17 Future Vision Wraphttps://www.jocelynsilva.com/https://www.instagram.com/iamjocelynsilva/https://substack.com/@therelentlesslover

#115 Healing Trauma, Reclaiming Self-Trust, and Building Real Connection with Tori Jenae

Healing Trauma, Reclaiming Self-Trust, and Building Real Connection with Tori JenaeTrauma-informed relationship and confidence coach Tori Jenae shares how complex childhood trauma shaped her nervous system and dating patterns, including perfectionism, control, low-grade anxiety, and avoidant “push-pull” intimacy. She explains how early attachments create “love maps,” why trauma is stored in the body, and critiques talk therapy that stops at the mind, emphasizing somatic work and safety in relationship as key to healing. Tori recounts leaving home at 17, breaking a family lineage of addiction, and finding safety with her ex-husband, with whom she was married for 20 years. The conversation also covers antidepressants and holistic health factors, the loneliness epidemic and monetized intimacy, what healthy intimacy feels like, ways couples rebuild connection, and her “Reclamation Method” and ABCs of healing: awareness, beliefs, and clearing.00:00 Meet Tori Jenae00:48 Early Trauma Signs02:57 Love Maps and Attachment05:07 Breaking Family Cycles09:32 Resilience and Purpose12:40 Learning to Trust16:56 Healing Through the Body21:43 Holistic Mental Health28:38 Loneliness and Lost Intimacy32:14 Loneliness Needs People32:31 Dating Apps Reality Check34:08 What Matters Most35:04 Stop Living Through Phones37:33 Success Yet Unworthy40:33 Happiness Inside You43:06 Reclamation Method Basics45:34 ABCs of Healing51:08 Therapist Boundaries54:12 Healthy Love Today55:41 Rekindling Long Term Intimacy01:02:16 Never Stop Dating01:03:17 Planning the Future01:04:44 Closing Thankshttps://www.torijenae.com/opt-in-d7dec567-5a03-4245-b2fa-929599de006ahttps://www.torijenae.com/https://www.instagram.com/tori.jenae/https://www.linkedin.com/in/tori-jenae-ma-psych-a6051766/