Tea with Queen and J.

Are You Rawdogging ADHD???

Over the past five years, after a lifetime of struggling and a lot of research, I’ve come to the conclusion that I probably have ADHD = Attention Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder. I’m self-diagnosed, so I invited my medically diagnosed friend Diamond Stylz to discuss all things ADHD and how it impacts our lives. Watch the full video version of this episode on patreon: https://www.patreon.com/posts/are-you-raw-adhd-125589631?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=postshare_creator&utm_content=join_link Teawithqueenandj.com DONATE Paypal: https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/teawithqj Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/teawithqj

Is Participating In Misogyny A Choice?

Not to bring up old shxt, but I don't like how "the media" glazed over Kendrick Lamar calling out ShxtsNGigs specifically, on 'wacced out murals'. Kendrick is just as sick of the podcast industrial complex as the rest of us and I think that's hilarious. In this episode we talk about Kendrick (because I must) but more importantly we use the men-with-podcast-equipment epidemic as a jumping off point for how to approach trusting men in our community, the potential for betrayal - and how the way we approach both reflects our understandings of oppression, and our individual relationships to power, privilege, and accountability. 00:58 LA fires, California Black Freedom Fund 2:14 Kendrick Lamar is tired of the podcast industrial complex too 5:51 Queen is ok not watching anime 8:37 Were James & Fuhad ever “one of the good ones” 10:56 Is participating in misogyny a choice 13:18 Misogyny sounds cute in a British accent 15:26 Your privilege increases your capacity to harm 17:16 Hyper-focusing on marginalization lets privilege of the hook 19:33 Deifying “nice” men 23:05 Is the disappointment/upset at men like ShxtsNGigs performative 24:53 Are you an agent of oppression? 31:50 Are you in community with people more marginalized than you 36:40 Is your partner's misogyny a reflection of you Check out the California Black Freedom Fund https://www.pledge.to/BlackLA For other vetted funds, resources, and events in California check out Philanthropy CA https://www.philanthropyca.org/2025-california-disaster-response The previous episode referenced is Black American Dollars, Black American Politics, available on patreon, where we discuss the ShxtsNGigs incident and anti-Blackness across the diaspora: https://www.patreon.com/posts/bonus-video-113195050?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=postshare_creator&utm_content=join_link Watch full video version of this episode on patreon: https://www.patreon.com/posts/is-participating-121221180?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=postshare_creator&utm_content=join_link Music featured in this episode includes "Totter Teeter" by Guustavv https://www.epidemicsound.com/track/4y6tgclvb0/ Teawithqueenandj.com DONATE Paypal: https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/teawithqj Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/teawithqj This episode was created, hosted, and produced by Naima Lewis Muhammad & Janicia Francis, with editorial support from Jonathan Luna, Opening song by Ohene Cornelius

Sex, Queerness, Deviance and Diddy

Let's talk about HOW we're talking about Diddy. Though Sean "Diddy" Combs is in jail on a variety of SA allegations, a lot of social media content has reduced his alleged behavior to "being freaky" - raising a larger conversation about society's understanding of SA, consent and it's complicated relationship with consensual sex. Our resident kink enthusiast, Queen breaks down how sex and kinks get harmfully conflated with acts of violence and SA, while J. gets in their Black church kid Telfar about the influence of cultural Christianity, domination & control on community concepts of sex and deviance. Also the kink spectrum, group sex, the closet queer to r*pist pipeline (that's not a thing), queerness and possibility, and more. Watch the video version of this episode on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/posts/sex-queerness-118518621?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=postshare_creator&utm_content=join_link 00:45 GloRilla's PR savvy 4:09 So Diddy is in jail... 6:15 Exhibit A: Diddy is not from Harlem 9:10 How social media is engaging with the Diddy allegations 10:47 Being "freaky" vs being "a r*pist" 12:52 Conflating sex with deviance is a tradition 14:06 The kink spectrum 18:46 Queerness, non-monogamy and Black cultural Christianity 22:53 How a cultural context of control & domination impacts sexual beliefs 27:13 Not the group sex girlies being surprised by consent 35:35 Closeted sexuality is not a pipeline to being a r*pist 38:00 How disregarding whole groups of people allows abuse to persist 41:27 Kendrick's "Not Like Us" and how it frames SA Teawithqueenandj.com DONATE Paypal: https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/teawithqj Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/teawithqj This episode was created, hosted, and produced by Naima Lewis Muhammad & Janicia Francis, with editorial support from Jonathan Luna, Opening song by Ohene Cornelius

Not the Post-Election Shoulda Woulda Coulda!

Your womanist race-nerd recap of all them post-election vibes, is here! In this lawd halmurphy of an episode we recap the delusion of the Mike Tyson vs. J*ke Paul fight, what we're gonna do about these yt people, the racism of deflecting to non-white voters, performing voter disappointment on social media, how the ego is might be ruining activism, the 4B movement, self-caring to freedom and mad other sh*t. Check out Kimberly Foster's breakdown of the 4B movement making its way to the US. Shout out to @pardonmewithp for capturing that fresh post-election rage. And our throwback post-election episode #79 Bigotry Didn't Start Last Tuesday is worth the listen as a time-capsule of what was happening at the time politically, the birth and rebranding of the "women's march" and the frustration a lot of us felt towards Hillary Clinton's campaign. Watch the video version of this episode on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/posts/not-post-shoulda-116836973 0:00 Intro 2:09 Mike Tyson vs Paul fight 5:23 VP Harris Concession speech 7:56 Post-election WTF 16:15 Stop deflecting to non-white voters its eww 21:23 2016 vs 2024 election vibes 24:03 Performative pain for social media 31:28 "Not voting during a genocide" morning afters 35:06 Is your activist ego happy that Tr*mp won 39:57 Is the 4B movement a viable post-election response 50:08 What are we gonna do about yt ppl? 52:00 1:02:00 Can we self-care to freedom? 1:05:02 Is there too much disagreement within the movement? 1:09:24 Can you remove your ego from your activism on social media? 1:15:46 The "Latino" vote 1:18:29 Get in your community! Teawithqueenandj.com DONATE Paypal: https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/teawithqj Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/teawithqj This episode was created, hosted, and produced by Naima Lewis Muhammad & Janicia Francis, with editorial support from Jonathan Luna, Opening song by Ohene Cornelius

The Election Episode: Is NOT voting a strategy towards liberation?

In this episode, we dig into why voting or not voting feels different when it’s happening during a genocide. We got a list of questions, What’s behind some of your favorite thinkers' moves during this election season? Could they be closeted voters during this cycle? And how does the need to be liked show up in liberation work? If you’re a Black feminist, womanist, radical, or just here for the liberation convo, this is for you. We don’t spend much time on Trump (or, as we call him, “the demon”)—our lives are bigger than what white men try to do. But we do get into the big names: Mayor Eric Adams (aka NYC’s chief rat), VP Kamala Harris’ biracial identity, Obama, and his cousin Pookie. Watch the video version of this episode on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/posts/election-episode-114786447?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=postshare_creator&utm_content=join_link Queen & J. are two womanist race nerds dismantling white supremacist patriarchal capitalism one episode at a time. Drink up! Episode Timestamps: 00:00 Recording while wearing pants 03:00 Electoral politics... why? 5:13 Mayor Eric Adams and NYC's trash/rat problem 20:30 Mayor David Dinkins would never 21:42 Presidential Election 23:25 Voter apathy 26:21 Voting or nah during a genocide 30:10 Post-election 2016 35:43 What is the strategy for liberatory minded non-voters 47:33 Are you exercising a vibes-only politic 49:42 The cool kids, cliques and being liked in liberation movements 52:00 President Obama, Black men voters & "cousin Pookie" 1:09:43 VP Kamala Harris and Black media's obsession with the silk press 1:15:19 VP Harris bi-racial identity, misogyny/noir & xenophobia 1:19:53 Black voters and the "voting for them just bc they're Black" allegations 1:24:15 Final thoughts on VP Harris Tweet us while you listen! @teawithqj or use #teawithqj and add #podin on Twitter to help others discover Tea with Queen and J. podcast! WEBSITE Teawithqueenandj.com SOCIAL MEDIA Twitter: https://twitter.com/teawithqj @teawithqj Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/teawithqj/ @teawithqj Facebook: www.facebook.com/TeawithQueenandJ Tea with Queen and J. Tumblr: teawithqueenandj.tumblr.com TEAMAIL & SPONSOR INQUIRIES teawithqueenandj@gmail.com DONATE Paypal: https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/teawithqj Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/teawithqj Send us snail mail: Tea with Queen and J. P.O. Box 1617 229 East 85th Street New York, NY 10028 This episode was created, hosted, and produced by Naima Lewis Muhammad & Janicia Francis, with editorial support from Jonathan Luna, Opening song by Ohene Cornelius