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#99: Roleplay Lite - An Easy Guide for the Roleplay-Curious

Send us a textWhen most people hear roleplay, they instantly cringe. They think of awkward classroom exercises, bad accents, or being forced to improvise lines in front of other people. No wonder it feels intimidating in the bedroom!But roleplay doesn’t have to be awkward or over the top. In this episode, I share how to make roleplay simple, sexy, and fun—without needing costumes, scripts, or a Broadway-level performance.I’ll walk you through:Why roleplay isn’t about “faking it”—it’s about giving your hidden selves permission to take the leadEasy components (like collars, boots, glasses, or positions) that can spark whole fantasiesHow to use mini-scenes (short, playful roleplays that last just a few minutes) to take the pressure offWhy solo roleplay can be an amazing way to explore on your own, no judgment requiredBy the end of this episode, you’ll have plenty of ideas to bring a little fantasy into your sex life in ways that feel authentic and playful—without all the cringe.Prompts to ExploreHow do you feel about roleplay right now—excited, nervous, silly, curious?What hidden selves could you lean into?What’s one simple component (a prop, a position, or a mood shift) that you’d like to try?Can you imagine a short mini-scene, either with a partner or solo, that feels fun or intriguing?If you enjoy the episode, a 5-star rating really helps more people discover the show. And if you’d like to see a more personal side of me, DM me (@harley_rabbit) the word “playful” on Instagram and I’ll add you to my Close Friends group.Further Listening:#28: Sleep Play - The Gateway Kink to CNC? #90: Behind the Mask - A Deep Dive into Pony Play with Rapidash xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Fetlife Instagram SubscribeStar Visit my website harleyrabbit.com

#98: Why do we Celebrate Risk Everywhere Except in Sex?

Send us a textIn last week’s episode, I talked about the “kink police” — the people who project their authority onto others and try to dictate how kink “should” be done. This week, I want to explore a different kind of projection: when people put their fears onto your choices.Agency in kink is usually talked about in terms of safety — boundaries, consent, protecting ourselves. And that’s vital. But agency is more than just the right to say no. It’s also the right to say yes to risks that matter to you.Here’s what I cover in this episode:Why agency isn’t just about safety, but also about the right to risk.How society celebrates risk in sports and travel, but shames it in sex.My personal story of doing a rope-in-water scene despite warnings.What I learned from Cruciator about scenes without safe words.Why safe words are tools, not substitutes for attunement and connection.I’d love for you to reflect: What does agency mean to you? Where’s your line between whats ok and not ok in kink? And do you think we sometimes rely too much on safe words?🔗 Don’t forget to take part in my listener survey (link in the show notes). Your feedback helps me keep shaping this podcast for your journey.Further Listening#94: Seduced by Fear: Cruciator on the Dark Side of Desire#91: The Single Most Important Skill in Kink (episode about attunement)#33: Tied up in a Pool - Not What I Expected!#32: Extreme Scenes - Understanding Abduction Play with Cruciatorxx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Fetlife Instagram SubscribeStar Visit my website harleyrabbit.com

#97: Who Are the Kink Police and How Do You Avoid Them?

Send us a textEver met someone in the kink scene who acts like they invented BDSM? Yeah… those are the kink police. 🙄 In this episode, I’m breaking down elitism, rope snobbery, and why anyone telling you there’s a “right” way to do kink is full of it.We’ll talk about:Why your kinky journey is 100% your ownThe difference between confidence and egoHow to spot predators who isolate newbies (major red flag alert!)And why rolling your eyes at gatekeepers is totally validWhether you’re brand new or a seasoned kinkster, this episode is here to remind you: you are the authority on your own kink.🪢 Want to level up your rope skills? I’m hosting a Kazami-Ryu Shibari intensive in Townsville this October! Only 3 tickets left and early bird pricing ends this Sunday. Grab your spot through this link. Or find the Fetlife event here. 📝 Take my listener survey! I want to know more about you—your interests, your kink journey, and what you love about this podcast. It only takes a few minutes and helps me make even better episodes for you. Click the survey link here. xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Fetlife Instagram SubscribeStar Visit my website harleyrabbit.com

#96: What Music Taught Me About Sex (Plus a Special Request!)

Send us a textThis week, I’m taking you behind the scenes of my journey — from being a guitar-obsessed, heavy metal teenager to chasing a music career, and eventually finding my way into sexology. On paper, those two worlds couldn’t be more different… but in this episode, I share why they’re deeply connected for me.I talk about the moments that made music feel like my safe place, the way eroticism reaches the same deep, hidden parts of us, and how both music and sex have taught me about connection, vulnerability, and being truly seen.It’s a personal one, and I think it might help you understand a bit more about who I am and why I do what I do.Plus, I’ve got a special request: I want to know more about YOU. We’re coming up to 100 episodes, and your feedback will help shape the next 100. It’s quick, fun, and an it would mean the world to me. 🙏Here's the survey link!xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Fetlife Instagram SubscribeStar Visit my website harleyrabbit.com

#95: Floggers 101: Design, Technique, and Play with Chainwire

Send us a textEver wondered what makes a great flogger—and how to actually use one?In this episode of Turns Out I’m Into It, I’m joined by local kink maker Chainwire, the man behind Hurty World’s handcrafted floggers, to explore the artistry, technique, and sensation behind one of kink’s most versatile toys.We dive into:The craftsmanship of floggers—from leather selection to balance and weightWhat to look for when buying a floggerTechniques for play: thuddy vs stingy, warm-up vs intensity, and creating those delicious “waves” in a sceneHow to read your partner’s cues (both verbal and nonverbal)Cleaning, storage, and why you probably need more than one flogger in your kitSensory play, aftercare, and building intimacy through impactWhether you’re brand new to impact play or looking to refine your technique, this episode is packed with practical advice and hot tips to level up your flogging game.Where to find Chainwire:Hurty World (Fetlife)Hurty World at Brisbane’s Four Seasons MarketsPlay safe, have fun, and stay curious!xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Fetlife Instagram SubscribeStar Visit my website harleyrabbit.com