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#95: Floggers 101: Design, Technique, and Play with Chainwire

Send us a textEver wondered what makes a great flogger—and how to actually use one?In this episode of Turns Out I’m Into It, I’m joined by local kink maker Chainwire, the man behind Hurty World’s handcrafted floggers, to explore the artistry, technique, and sensation behind one of kink’s most versatile toys.We dive into:The craftsmanship of floggers—from leather selection to balance and weightWhat to look for when buying a floggerTechniques for play: thuddy vs stingy, warm-up vs intensity, and creating those delicious “waves” in a sceneHow to read your partner’s cues (both verbal and nonverbal)Cleaning, storage, and why you probably need more than one flogger in your kitSensory play, aftercare, and building intimacy through impactWhether you’re brand new to impact play or looking to refine your technique, this episode is packed with practical advice and hot tips to level up your flogging game.Where to find Chainwire:Hurty World (Fetlife)Hurty World at Brisbane’s Four Seasons MarketsPlay safe, have fun, and stay curious!Let's bring your fantasies to life! Book a free Connection Call with me, at harleyrabbit.com.xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Fetlife Instagram SubscribeStar Visit my website harleyrabbit.com

#94: Seduced by Fear: Cruciator on the Dark Side of Desire

Send us a textWelcome to Turns Out I’m Into It. In this unforgettable episode, I’m joined by special guest Cruciator to explore one of the kink world’s most taboo topics: fear play.Cruciator has been active in the BDSM community since 1992 and is the owner of Fetlife’s Fear Play group. With decades of experience conducting high-intensity scenes—including multi-day abductions—he brings a grounded, thoughtful approach to a kink that is often misunderstood. He’s also a seasoned educator, offering in-depth online classes on the psychology, technique, and safety of fear play.We explore:Why fear can be intensely erotic—and even healingThe altered states and flow experiences fear play can evokeThe arc of a scene: from immersion to cathartic releaseThe neuroscience of subspace How to evoke realism in long-term dynamicsHow tops manage responsibility, subtle cues, and emotional safetyWhy cultural fear of dark fantasies causes more harm than the desires themselves🎓 Want to explore further? Cruciator is offering an online class on fear play in August—designed for tops, bottoms, and anyone curious to go deeper. You can find the Fetlife event here. Tickets are available through Eventbrite here. I’ll be attending too.You can also find Cruciator's Extreme Scenes Protocol here, as well as more information on his negotiation word. 📚 Book Recommendation: The Lover’s Pinch – a fascinating history of BDSM across cultures and eras.🎧 Whether you’re fear-curious or simply fascinated by the deeper psychological layers of kink, this is one of my favorite conversations on the podcast so far!Let's bring your fantasies to life! Book a free Connection Call with me, at harleyrabbit.com.xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Fetlife Instagram SubscribeStar Visit my website harleyrabbit.com

#93: Harley Gets Schooled in Dirty Talk - A Masterclass with Sam Charles

Send us a textIn this extra juicy episode, I am joined by sex and intimacy coach Sam Charles for a very hands-on dirty talk masterclass. What starts as a playful lesson turns into a real-life demonstration of navigating boundaries, expressing desire, and negotiating a spicy scene in real time.I open up about my own edges when it comes to using words during sex, and Sam creates a beautifully safe space to explore those vulnerabilities. Together, we co-create a scene that goes from light flirting to full-blown cock worship—sharing authentic erotic energy along the way! You’ll learn:Four practical structures to build your dirty talk confidenceHow to use sound, breath, and tone to express desireWhat it looks like to communicate boundaries while staying sexyWhy asking for what you want can feel vulnerable—and how to do it anywayThe power of names, roles, and real-time feedback in turning fantasy into realityContent Warning: This episode includes real-time erotic role play and authentic sexual energy. If you're not in the headspace for sexy content today, feel free to skip or come back later.Resources Mentioned:Follow Sam on Instagram (@sexcoachsam), Fetlife (@SexCoachSam), or visit samcharlescoaching.comWorkshop co-developed with Lessey  Wentworth, Erotic Liberation & Relationship Coach: body-witch.comIf you loved this episode… Share it with your partner or bestie and try the exercises together! Want more support navigating your own erotic edges? Book a coaching session with Harley via harleyrabbit.comLet's bring your fantasies to life! Book a free Connection Call with me, at harleyrabbit.com.xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Fetlife Instagram SubscribeStar Visit my website harleyrabbit.com

#92: My Brisbane Trip – Navigating Nerves, New Experiences, and My Favourite Rope Scene Yet

Send us a textIn this episode, I’m sharing some honest reflections from my recent trip to Brisbane—where I pushed through some big travel anxiety to have one of my favourite rope scenes yet.I open up about what it’s like to manage anxiety while trying to do the things you really want to do, and how I’m learning to meet that part of myself with more compassion. I also talk about the rope scene I did with Deadmaxis (who we had on the show on episode #87), and what made it feel so safe and connected—even with power dynamics in play.This episode is pretty raw. I recorded it while everything was still fresh. But I hope it helps normalise the behind-the-scenes struggles that don’t always get talked about. If you’ve ever felt like you’re too anxious to explore kink, I hope this gives you a bit of encouragement and a reminder that you’re not alone.Mentioned in this episode:#87 The Love Language of Rope - with Deadmaxis and Aura Grey #89 Kink in a Small Town, and Finding my Brave (thoughts leading up to this trip)#54 I had a Bad Experience - This is What Happened (episode about my not so great experience last year)Body Worlds Exhibit -Brisbane @_deadmaxis on InstagramScene photos on my FetlifeLet's bring your fantasies to life! Book a free Connection Call with me, at harleyrabbit.com.xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Fetlife Instagram SubscribeStar Visit my website harleyrabbit.com

#91: The Single Most Important Skill in Kink (That You Can Learn Right Now)

Send us a textWhat if I told you there was one skill that could make you more attractive as a play partner, safer to play with, and help you create hotter, more connected scenes?In this solo episode, I dive into what I believe is the most important skill in kink: attunement.We explore:🔹 What attunement is 🔹 How to attune to yourself and how to attune to others 🔹 Why attunement is crucial for both Doms and subs 🔹 What gets in the way of staying present during play 🔹 How attunement makes scenes hotter, deeper, and more emotionally fulfilling🎁 This episode includes TWO free guided exercises you can use to start practising attunement today—either solo or with a partner. These are powerful tools to help you tune in, connect, and get more out of your kink scenes right away.Whether you’re brand new to kink or have been in the scene for years, this episode is a powerful reminder that technique means nothing without genuine connection.Mentioned in this EpisodeEpisode #89 Kink in a Small Town and Finding My Brave1) Self Attunement Exercise Set a timer for 5 minutes.Sit or lie down somewhere comfortable. Close your eyes.Gently scan your body from head to toe.What sensations do you notice?Are there any areas of tension, warmth, pressure, openness, tingling?Pick one sensation that stands out. Stay with it for a minute.Does it shift? Intensify? Fade?What emotion might be connected to it?Ask: What does this part of me need?A breath? Movement? A hand placed there?Respond with a small, compassionate action.2) Attuning to a Partner ExerciseSit facing each other. Set a timer for 5–10 minutes.Choose one person to be the "noticer" and one to be the "receiver."The noticer silently observes the receiver’s body—posture, breath, expression, energy.Ask internally: What do I notice? Offer your observations gently (e.g., “I noticed your shoulders softened when I smiled.”)Swap roles. At the end, reflect:What was it like to be seen that way?What did you learn about your partner?Let's bring your fantasies to life! Book a free Connection Call with me, at harleyrabbit.com.xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Fetlife Instagram SubscribeStar Visit my website harleyrabbit.com